Angry, do not sin: let the sun not set in your anger.
(Eph. 4:26)
Affirmative sentence: if you are ambitious, you don’t have to commit a crime against the background of any super-valuable idea, at all times super-valuable ideas are different: write books, for example, about your thoughts related to your life experience of your time, pass on information about how to solve problems to others, so that others do not spend time searching for this information – this will satisfy your ambition and will serve the good of civilization and progress, because people will have more time to devote to their work, and the work will be better, as a person will t be in the comfort zone, which will bring the fastest progress. Everyone is fenced off from unnecessary information that forms an overly emotional and impressionable personality, but what to do when such a personality is already formed? Some «tear» the «roof» from some situations, others do not, it all depends on how you perceive something – astronauts feel comfortable in space, although for many, what they do is unattainable from the point of view psychological capabilities?
«I know what a human heart is, it always beats faster in honor of the winner,» – Professor Ramonte (Rolf Hope), TV series «Octopus» (La piovra, Italy, 1984—2001, directors Damiano Damiani, Florestano Vancini, Luigi Parelli, Giacomo Battiato).
In Russian, there is the word «zapadlo» – this is a synonym for the word «problem» or a synonym for the word «disgust» in the normative vocabulary: some computer programs, when you do not pay money for them, make «zapadlo» – a problem in the form of limiting the possibilities of working with them and pop-ups with an offer to register and pay.
It seems that classical psychology is becoming bolder and even beginning to give such advice that earlier could be attributed to unspoken (to those that only parents could give in the kitchen) or anti-pedagogical – I mean such advice as not to restrain one’s emotions who has them.
You watch the news from some places, in this news they say that someone killed someone with an ax in the apartment, that someone killed someone from the city administration and shot himself or the client was offended by the remark of the administrator in the cafe about the ban on smoking in the hall, left and returned with a weapon from which he killed the administrator – the question is, why? He could give him problems by simple complaints, for example, to the sanitary-hygienic service, pointing out the shortcomings associated with non-compliance with sanitary-hygienic standards, and next time he could amuse the «burrows» by allowing him to smoke, since the complaint could lead to inconvenient checks (even if there were no violations), as well as the possible material costs of the cafe owner. What to do to those who at the forensic psychiatric examination have been called a person with an unstable psyche and impaired pride? 100% of those who resort to physical influence on the offender, either from an incomplete, or from a rich, or from the so-called dysfunctional family, but they all have one thing in common – they do not know how to take revenge on the offender under the law and thereby preserve their mental equilibrium? It doesn’t matter if you were spoiled if you grew up in an incomplete family, your grandparents or other relatives or didn’t indulge, there may be one conclusion: you probably don’t have any information on how to react in case of emergency, and therefore you may not be the so-called social competence? Is law revenge (writing a statement or complaint) the best psychiatric session without negative consequences for your future? Those who are from an incomplete family or, as they say, from a dysfunctional family, must be at least at the same level with those from a complete and so-called decent family in order to compete with them, but sometimes it turns out the other way around? Each social group has its own threshold of tolerance, for example, the scandalous neighbors will endure for a long time the workers who live with them in the same staircase, and not for long any leaders? Not all girls and guys need only money – is this again a specific social group?
In almost any public catering institution, there are a lot of violations in each area, both in the sanitary sector and in the legal one, this is like a person – not everyone complies with the law and generally accepted norms of behavior, moreover – the situation could not even reach the point of writing of any complaints, the one who was banned from smoking could verbally warn the cafe administrator in an inquiry form that he would write a complaint, asking in response to the smoking ban, whether everything is normal with observance of sanitary and hygienic standards, whether fire safety rules and so on. Here, the cafe administrator would have already started to think differently in the «they choose the lesser of two evils» mode, the visitor could influence, in scientific terms, the neurochemical processes in the brain of the person making a remark, but he chose to shoot him and went to jail for a long time. There are laws and legal ways to defend their interests, but not everyone knows how to use it, act as if they do not exist, and it is impossible to do otherwise. And most importantly: some say that they applied for help to law enforcement agencies, but no one helped them. This happens, and this is due to the fact that there is no evidence base, which is especially difficult to collect in such a crime as fraud. Therefore, in addition to the statement, it is necessary, if possible, to bring proof of someone’s guilt so that the word does not turn out against the word, this means the word of the person who made the statement, against the word of the one on which it is written, and he, naturally, if not a fool, he will deny everything. Evidence can be: audio recording, video recording, witnesses, etc. Lent money to someone, he doesn’t give it back, ask him when he will give it back, and make an audio recording of what he will answer if he answers what he wants to give, but not yet maybe then there will be no fraud composition, you can even not make an audio recording.
All of the above happened due to the lack of information on how to react correctly in a given situation, due to the fact that none of the family members or anyone else taught the shooter how to, without breaking the law, restore the psychological imbalance caused by hurt pride – the question is, where are the coaches who conduct trainings on this topic, where are the psychologists who teach this?
And there are a lot of such cases in the media: killed a neighbor during a quarrel or a pensioner set fire to the city administration building, and there are situations when what is called «splashing out» of internal aggression on oneself – suicide after not finding a common language with someone.
Nobody thinks that it is possible to write a complaint, or does not understand how painful it can be for the same official, if we are talking about problems that have arisen in relations with public servants (the main thing that will be written in it), which can be deprived of a bonus, work or even sent to prison if he violated the law by his actions or inaction. Sample words of the correspondent Paul Dick (Aleksey Petrenko) from the movie «TASS is authorized to declare» (USSR, 1984, director Vladimir Fokin): «… the one who is doused with shit is to blame, and then let him launder himself…».
Some of those who tried to solve problems by the so-called civicized way, through a written complaint against someone who occupies any position, argues as follows: he wrote, but he worked and works, but he works works, and his career growth can stop, and he will sit in his post until retirement, something like a well-known saying will happen – an eternal lieutenant, so that, as they say, we dig deeper in our reasoning.
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