How to Tell if He Is Interested
I’d have to say that’s all code for: He’s just not that into you. –Jack Berger
To become aware if you are getting to the root of his soul, look for clues that confirm his interest. Pay attention to his subconscious responses, which he is unable to control. If he is obviously trying to please or charm you, he is probably playing up to your vanity with no genuine interest in you. When he is interested, his face and gestures become more vibrant. Should you resist him, he may become more creative and motivated in overcoming your resistance. His strong desire can have an infectious impact on you.
Trust your instincts and your heart will tell you whether he is interested or not; noticing these signs is verification. When you have a deep effect on him the changes are visible. Detect the small gestures. His body language indicates how he feels more than anything he may actually say. When he is excited by your presence he may blush, stutter or his voice may tremble. He may even become tearful, laugh nervously, or adopt a relaxed persona. Darwin claimed that facial expressions are universal and part of evolution. Therefore, to divine his thoughts, imitate the expression on his face as accurately as possible and the same thoughts will arise in your mind or heart. If he holds eye contact with you longer than usual, he is probably quite interested. The guy who is interested keeps you within his field of vision, and every so often makes sure that you are still there. Another sign of interest is the size of his pupils; undiluted pupils can be a sign of disinterest.
The position of his body is a clue to his level of interest. Physically, when he is interested, he will reduce the personal space between you in comparison to the space he keeps with others, perhaps standing closer to you than to others. If he stands with his shoulders parallel to you or his feet in your direction even when standing with other people, it is a sign of attraction in his body language. If he rubs his brows with his fingers or smiles for no good reason while talking to you, it is a strong sign of interest. Fake smiles fade away very quickly.
If he finds you or your angle of conversation captivating, he will not glance in another direction. Generally, when people are deeply in love, they gaze at each other much more and are not so quick to look away. He will look longingly at things he enjoys and move his eyes away from those he does not. Unless he is naturally timid; his shyness impairs his ability to maintain good eye contact. Sometimes when you have just met and you overwhelm him, he will avoid eye contact with you, looking at everyone’s eyes but yours. On these occasions, he is probably really interested; if his feet and chest point towards you, these are sure signs that he likes you. If he is pointing at you, he is interested or at least intrigued by what you are telling him. If he is not interested or is distracted by someone else, he prepares to move his body by stepping back or turning away. The same applies to head movements; if he turns his head away from you, it signals a lack of interest either in the topic or in you. Any kind of involuntary mirroring can be a sign that he is influenced by you. His tone of voice can also tell you a lot about what he feels. Another sign is the slip of the tongue; he may say something that reveals what he is or is not interested in called the Freudian slip.
How to Gauge His Interest
We can change our lives. We can do, have, and be exactly what we wish. – Tony Robbins
First, take into consideration the strength of his effect on you. Desire cannot be faked. Look for someone who makes you uneasy or resembles your deep-rooted childhood ideal. He may represent something forbidden that excites you, maybe he resembles your ideal partner or perhaps you feel elated in his presence.
It is hard to find the right man worth attracting; it requires a combination of both your interests. Once you establish your interest, recognise if he is right for you. Analyze how he is responding to you by seeing if you have an effect on him. If he is not open to your feminine wiles, you need to stop wasting your time. It is impossible to attract every man you can put your finger on, as not everyone is open to your influence.
Many women rush through the process and become too involved too soon, without thinking rationally. When you rush into a relationship, there can be one of two outcomes: you catch him but soon lose interest, or he loses interest and the game is over. In your haste, you lose the chance of knowing if you have met the right person. Give yourself a chance to test the water to see if he is worth your time. It is only when he loses himself in the moment that he is ready to fantasise about you, and his conscience will no longer hold him back.
To attract him, you need to fully understand two things: what makes you attractive to his needs? Is he on par with what you desire? The importance of both these attributes should not be underestimated. If you act in accordance with his needs in ways not aligned with your character, he will see through your manipulations. If you rely only on what is appealing about your personality, you limit your potential. If you do not know much about him you may not use your tools effectively, or worse, use the wrong ones and turn him off completely. To make him fall in love with you, you need to know what arouses the feeling of love within him. Conquer his every thought by reaching to his subconscious and allow him to indulge in his deepest desires. Change his direction and create memorable experiences. Be sure to test him before treading the boards of a new relationship. He has created barriers around his heart; to gain access you need to find ways to penetrate his defences, so he surrenders his heart wilfully.
To dazzle him, see reality for what it is. Step outside your comfort zone. When you meet a man, you need to first get inside his head. Your attention should be taken away from yourself and focused on his mind. Gain information about him so you can devise a plan specific to him. The true key to charm is feeding what has been repressed or denied. What attracts him is your effort, showing how much you care. Leaving things to chance can result in a disaster, as you can make many mistakes.
Falling in love is a matter of psychology. Each relationship is special and intimate in its own way and there are no templates. Therefore, you need to deal with every person differently. Start by getting to grips with who he is. How else can you tell if he is right for you? What works with one guy may not work for another. Remember, people do not all love in the same ways or show they care in the same ways. Never assume that everyone expresses their love in a similar manner.
The man you idealise is more complex than the mask he hides behind, pretending to be more confident than he actually is. Never mistake his appearance for reality. He hides his insecurities and feelings of confusion and emptiness to protect his fragile ego. Appearances are deceptive. Though you may judge him by his face or clothes, never mistake his outward appearance for reality. He may be disguising his true feelings and showing you a reflection of the part of his character with which he is most in tune with. It is impossible to fully understand what is important to him, as he may either be lying to protect himself or even lying to himself.
What is it that motivates and interests him? Information depends on a keen eye for detail and requires digging deeper than the information he provides you. He may not be direct in telling you what he wants, maybe because he is too afraid. At times he will tell you the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, but how can you differentiate between the two? An angry facade may hide that he is dying for warmth. A repressed type may actually be struggling to conceal uncontrollable emotions. A calm exterior may point to a highly emotional and aggressive individual who is putting up a front to hide his insecurities and weaknesses. Men who are outwardly distant or shy are often longing to be drawn out and are easier to catch than extroverts. The greatest void all men feel is the lack of excitement and adventure. If he has repressed his appetite for pleasure, he is an easy target.
Once you understand his psychology, identify what he is looking for. Can you see him as his ideal self? Is the ideal he is searching for a part of your character, or someone you