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with your hands? Well, you can work touch into your technique, use your hands to grab her breasts, or place a hand on her stomach; that way you’ll be able to sense the muscle contractions that precede an orgasm. And always remember that the vagina is a wonderfully complex thing; if you’re not getting the results you desire, ask her for guidance. She’ll tell you what she likes, and there’s no shame in admitting you’ve been vexed by the mystery of the vagina. You certainly wouldn’t be the first guy.

       4. Situational Awareness

      OK, so it’s time to have sex. Do you have a condom? Cool, put it on. Now, take stock of the situation—is this a hot-and-heavy, clearing-shit-off-a-countertop encounter, or a soft-and-sensual, all-night-long affair? Because each requires a different approach. There’s nothing wrong with slamming away if the situation demands it (hey, you’ve got school in the morning), but as a general rule of thumb, it’s never a bad idea to switch up speed and stroke. Regardless, ease your way into things, don’t just stuff it in and start pumping away. There’s a good chance you’ll know the right way to proceed, and we’re not about to tell you there’s one correct way to have sex. That goes for positions, too. You don’t need to get acrobatic, though sometimes it’s fun, and you shouldn’t always be in control of the situation. Let your partner take the reins every now and again, there’s a good chance they’ll actually teach you something.