A departure from the topic of conversation in order to relax: if someone has not passed psychological tests when applying for a job, this does not mean that he will not pass the tests anywhere, and no one needs him, different tests have been developed for different professions, and in case of failure to pass a test, for example, for the civil service, we can say that a failed test is not needed only in the civil service, and not everywhere it becomes unnecessary (again we emphasize that the tests are different everywhere), and that it is not in the civil service needed, then this is up to a certain point (this info a mission for those who really want civil service), it is not needed when there are many who want to take a seat, but with a shortage of personnel, the testers are ready to close their eyes to a lot, if the conversation is about the army, the medical board is ready to close their eyes to a lot, in the case when there is a recruitment of new recruits for the war, because for well-known reasons there are not so many who want to get there. By the way, as a rule, «army» tests are aimed at identifying anxious individuals, such a state is not interested in the quality of soldiers (again, in the event that there are an excess of necessary candidates), this will still be discussed, if you are anxious, then self-realization should not be realized in the army sphere.
If you believe the information received by the author, then it was Neil Miller who identified four types of motivational conflicts, each of which can play a role in the emergence of what is called stress.
Conflict of approximation – approximation. This conflict arises when a person seeks to achieve two desired goals that cannot be achieved simultaneously. For example, he is trying to choose which of the two films to watch. Or he chooses whether to enter a prestigious institute or get a profitable place. Conflicts of proximity – approximations are usually resolved relatively easily. Conflict of avoidance – avoidance. This conflict takes place when a person faces two unpleasant situations, and avoiding one situation leads to a collision with another. For example, a woman with an unwanted pregnancy may, for moral reasons, resist abortion – in this case, both the birth of the child and the termination of the pregnancy are undesirable. Conflicts of avoidance – avoidance are very difficult to resolve, and they create a strong emotional tension. Conflict of approach – avoidance. This is a situation in which one event or activity carries both attractive and repulsive features. Achieving the desired at the same time leads to exposure to the unwanted, while avoiding the unwanted is associated with the rejection of the desired. For example, the dilemma of a student who is offered an illegally obtained copy of the final exam. Deception will cause guilt and humiliation of self-esteem, but at the same time provide a good assessment. Conflicts of proximity – avoidance are very difficult to resolve. Multiple conflict of proximity – avoidance. A person needs to choose between two jobs: one is prestigious, promises a high salary, but involves a longer working day and moving to an area with an unfavorable climate; the other offers great opportunities for advancement, better climatic conditions, but low wages and an indefinite duration of the working day. This is an example of a multiple conflict of approximation – avoidance, a situation in which it is necessary to make a choice between several alternatives, each of which has both positive and negative sides. This is the most difficult conflict to resolve, partly because it’s difficult to compare individual aspects of the alternatives, for example, how good the climate is better than the indefinite duration of the working day or to what extent the chances of quick progress compensate for the low starting salary.
Everyone has different views on the same thing? The task of someone who wants to change a person’s personality is to «stir up» something that theoretically should be given to him by higher powers, but for some reason doesn’t work, for example: people are suing someone, completely forgetting that they have a family and children, spend time and money on lawyers, getting pleasure from it, in this case, in these people you need to «wake up» the instinct of making money and spending it on your family and, accordingly, have fun, enjoy the fact that the child went to rest at sea or somewhere else? Cultivate what is sleeping in you or in someone else, if this makes it easier to live?
It is funny, but it is the attitude to the place where someone is located that determines the psychological state of this someone who is somewhere, for example: someone got into the army, and he believes that they are manipulating him. He will not be quite comfortable there with such convictions, but the other, on the contrary, will consider that he is manipulating his presence in the army, such people call the army a «feeding trough,» in which they feed, dress, etc., in general, a full social package, such a metamorphosis.
What is the strategy for meeting needs? Everyone decides what information is harmful to him, what is useful, what to listen to, emotions and instincts, to look for ways to implement them or to act differently (but some do not have emotions and a minimum of instincts, and that’s for sure, there are such people – these are astronauts, for example, if we are talking about a profession that people with such qualities occupy, it was mentioned at the beginning of this work), look for ways out of emotions and instincts, using the mind. Also, everyone decides what to choose: a self-regulating life or a life regulated from the outside, everyone thinks what he should decide: whether the trend of rejecting various generally accepted norms is negative for him or not. There are many ways, but you need to choose the one that will go as comfortably as possible, and so that your comfort is not uncomfortable for others?
In poor countries with a low standard of living, you cannot take purely emotional decisions and actions, it can ruin or you need to minimize them, because in addition to this you have to solve material problems, you can’t, for example, send your boss away and take unemployment benefits, as in in some rich countries, in a poor country, the results of each action need to be predicted, looking back and around, if you do not have a hundred or two thousand dollars in your «hitch»?
T total goodwill or total thoughtfulness under the guise of goodwill? I do not like the fact that there is little love – what is the problem? Create a ministry of love and bring love to the masses? In the modern world, some things cannot be called literally, they need an official cover by other names – a substitution of terms – for a better understanding of what is happening, go to the Internet and watch what is the «Overton window»? Manipulation by substitution of concepts? Manipulation by throwing bridges – is it when you combine two facts that are not related to each other together?
Sample words of a clergyman from the film «State Border» (USSR, 1980, director Boris Stepanov): «… power should be clearly humane, but secretly terrible.»
Why do some politicians of rich states pamper people with large social packages – for the sake of social peace, probably?
According to statistics available on the Internet (no one says that it is objective or not objective, it simply is on the Internet), the happiest people live in Denmark (according to the media, as of October 2013, there is one of the highest social benefits), as can be seen from this, the government of this country has undertaken the solution of the problems of its citizens, in any case, material. And from here the following social consequences follow, for example, such as if the state is rich, then theoretically the staff of employees at enterprises or institutions is large enough, in the sense in connection with which you work less, relax more – there is time to satisfy personal needs, respectively, no one not nervous (personal needs are not suppressed) and, accordingly, lives longer and better.
According to the life expectancy in any country, you can determine where the rich country is, and where not very: where they live longer, the country is richer there, respectively, where it is