Makes A Difference In The Lives Of Others
This quality is at the core of every powerful woman's being. It is something that, deep down, every woman wants to achieve on a daily basis. It is a quality created by behaving according to the previous traits, for when a woman lives by the first seven, she will easily and effortlessly become the woman who makes a difference in the lives of others. For example, a businesswoman comes across a homeless girl on the street. The girl's appearance is disheveled. Her clothes are torn; her hair is a knotted mess. The girl is smoking a cigarette and looking down at the ground. The businesswoman glances at her watch and realizes she's late for work. Yet, she turns and walks up to the girl. She hands the girl $20 to cover some of her needs. She offers inspiration and words of encouragement when she tells the girl that she doesn't have to accept this life, and how, with a little effort, she can become anyone she wants to be and do anything she wants to do.
One year later, the businesswoman receives a thank-you card in the mail. In the card is a $20 bill and a business card from the owner of a new boutique...coincidentally located on the same corner where she'd stopped and spoken to the destitute girl. The businesswoman smiles inside, knowing she'd taken the right actions to make a difference in the life of someone else. And that, for a powerful woman, is what makes the journey worthwhile.
As you can see, it doesn't matter what a woman's role in life is - that's just the outer picture the world sees. It's the possession and application on a daily basis of these qualities and traits that make a woman - no matter who she is or what she does for a living - truly a powerful woman.
Many people see femininity as being weak and bending to someone else's will. It's quite the contrary. Femininity is about having the power of winds and oceans, which can shape cliffs and mountains. It is about having such fluidity that it becomes unshakable, unstainable, and unpredictable. Does water bend to the will of boats, or do boats follow the flow of water? Does the wind bend to the will of cliffs, or does it shape the cliffs?
There has been a great movement of women's empowerment over the last 30 years, which restored the rights of women. This is a great thing because women have been disrespected, abused, and silenced in the past. The modern woman has become educated and competitive in business and in the marketplace. Many women are also telling me they are getting annoyed by the competitiveness and rivalry of women in personal relationships. This growth of competitive power is a required phase to awaken your full potential, and I think this phase has been successful. The next phase would be to grow from competitive power to cooperative power. That's what feminine empowerment is really about.
Here are some aspects of feminine cooperative power, with analogies to winds and oceans.
Feminine power is beauty.Harmony is beauty, and beauty is power. Thus, ultimate harmony is ultimate power. If you seek true beauty, no amount of make-up can compensate for a competitive attitude or anger. What gives you true beauty? When you are naked in the morning, what makes you beautiful? It's certainly not the clothing. When life flows through you and you live harmoniously with your environment, you can't help but be beautiful at all times, naked or dressed.
Feminine power is cooperation. Most of our society is based upon the idea of lack. People compete for limited jobs. Businesses compete for limited markets. Food industries regulate productions to ensure prices remain competitive. Women even compete for attractive men! Yet, all of this is an illusion. The world has so many needs that there are plenty of constructive, productive, and innovative things to do. The markets could greatly improve lives with things that are currently almost impossible to find or that are yet to be invented. Apple was not competing with anyone but itself, striving to be the best it could be. There is plenty of food to feed the world, but we simply don't have distribution mechanisms allowing that to happen. There are plenty of men for every woman. There is no need to compete with anyone else. I am not competing with anyone with my business. In fact, I associate with anyone who shares a similar message and intention to strengthen the message and movement. Instead of competing for the biggest part of a pie, you can work with others to build a larger pie.
Feminine power is synergy. Water flows through the ecosystems and allows life to exist. It feeds the plants and composes 60-80% of our bodies. It does not bend to the will of plants. Rather, it nourishes the plants and allows them to grow. In the same way, femininity allows men and people around you to grow. Trying to shape a man is like pulling a plant out of the ground to see how the roots are growing. When you feed a man with unconditional love, support, light and water, he will grow and glow on his own, just like a plant.
Feminine power is flow. Water has no shape, and for that reason, it cannot be bent or broken. The wind offers no resistance, and for that reason, you cannot move or redirect it. You can shape a stone with a hammer, and the wind can shape the entire cliff. When your will has the fluidity and strength of the wind, nothing can stop it from influencing and shaping your environment.
Feminine power is vulnerability.A butterfly is beautiful because it is vulnerable. A flower is beautiful because it is vulnerable. They do not need walls and protection. Vulnerability is naked power. Naked power is beautiful. Raw beauty is powerful beyond imagination.
Feminine power is love. We've been thought to love people as long as they behave well and as long as they do what we want. That's conditional love. Unconditional love is about loving people no matter what they do and no matter how they behave. Unconditional love is not directed towards anyone. It is about shining love to everyone and everything on this planet and beyond, including your father, your ex-boyfriend, and the stranger on the street. Unconditional love has nothing to do with relationships. It is a way of being that you carry with you and shine through the world.
Feminine power is absolute. It is a connection to God, the source of life, the universe, or whatever you want to call it. Life flows through you through that spiritual connection, and because its source is absolute, feminine power is absolute.
Be An Empowered Woman
As a woman, you play many important roles, and limiting your self-belief reduces your personal power, hindering yourself and professional development. Women worldwide continue to strive to gain independence. As independence for women becomes more widely accepted, now is the time to exercise the authority you have been given and empower yourself. Learning to express your womanhood, your uniqueness, for peak performance is the most important thing you can do. So, how does a woman empower herself?
Women's empowerment starts with building a sense of self-worth. It is only in the presence of a strong sense of self-worth that you can really enjoy life. For you to find self-worth, you must first learn to honour and to love yourself, and everything else will follow. When you learn to love and value yourself, then almost miraculously, other people will treat you the same way. Remember, it is impossible for other people to look upon you with high value if, deep down, you have a low regard for yourself.
Guide To Becoming An Empowered Woman
Develop Self-Respect
Self-respect implies that you value yourself. To respect something is to accept it. Embrace your unique skills and gifts. There is only one of you in the world. If you don't want others to consider you as somebody less, start valuing yourself first. The woman with self-respect simply likes herself. Reinforce this by surrounding yourself with people who love, honour, and respect you. Separate yourself from the ones that don't. And if you're not sure how you're doing...try this test: the next time someone pays you a compliment, make a note of how you react. Are you able to accept the compliment graciously? Or, did you discount the compliment and tell the person you didn't deserve it? When you can accept a compliment with simple heartfelt gratitude, then you know you're self-respect is growing.
Remember Your Voice And Opinions Matter
One of my favorite writings,