Healing Yourself from Shame, Sexual Abuse, and Physical Trauma
One Night Can Change Your Life
Women are Programmed to Say “No” to Sex
Shame: The Nastiest Five-Letter Word in the Universe
The Body Remembers: Trauma & Physical Imprinting
Beginning the Journey of Sexual Healing & Awakening
Coming Home to My Body and Welcoming Pleasure
How to Reignite Your Shrinking Libido
Sexual Polarity: What Most Women Crave
Realizing Your Pleasure Potential
I was sitting alone on a break during the first week of our Somatica® Sex and Intimacy training program, putting out fires in my office and completely absorbed on my laptop. A woman came up to me and said, “Oh my God, you’re Emily Morse. I have your Kegel app on my phone, and I recommend it to all my Holistic Pelvic Care clients. I am so excited to meet you!”
That afternoon, Xanet and I spent an hour talking about Holistic Pelvic Care. I quickly realized that this woman had a depth of knowledge, skills, and life experience about sexual healing and awakening that set her apart from many sex educators, coaches, and experts. After all, having lived in a sexless marriage for twenty-five years gives her a lot of street cred! Although relatively new to the field, Xanet is the real deal, and this book will prove it to you.
When I first read Living an Orgasmic Life in preparation for a Sex with Emily podcast with Xanet, I was surprised by how much I related to her personal story. Like Xanet, I grew up very disconnected from my body and sexuality. For many years, it was hard for me to experience pleasure and orgasms. I also struggled with intimacy and not having a good role model for what a healthy relationship should look like.
Feeling confused around sexuality is a state of mind I can relate to because I hear it all the time from my listeners. So many women struggle with sexless marriages, painful intercourse, inability to experience orgasm, and low libido. Not only does Xanet address all these issues in this book, but she provides a vast array of exercises and tools to help women find or reclaim their pleasure.
What I love the most about this book is the way in which Xanet masterfully weaves in her own story in such a vulnerable way. She makes it completely relatable to every woman’s experience and provides all of us a path forward to living an orgasmic life.
While there are many words of wisdom in this book, I want to leave you with this concept: Xanet talks about a woman’s pelvic bowl (uterus, ovaries, vagina) as her second heart and second brain—the source of tremendous love and wisdom and the gateway to orgasmic life energy. Living an Orgasmic Life is born from this place of birth and rebirth, and I can already tell how profoundly this book will impact women and help us reconnect our sexuality to our emotions, body, and our pleasure. I am honored and delighted to be part of this book’s orgasmic birth and to call Xanet a colleague and a friend.
Dr. Emily Morse
Founder & Host of Sex with Emily