Praise for Living an Orgasmic Life
“Xanet Pailet’s book offers a modern, refreshing insight into what all women should become aware of: that they are made for love. And that the art and cultivation of pleasure is the language of love. And that if they don’t learn it and take the responsibility to teach it to their partners, the consciousness of the world will remain stagnant. Living an Orgasmic Life teaches us to become aware in love and to channel pleasure as a means of conscious awakening. There is no better mission. And this book will show you the way.”
—Margot Anand, the world’s leading authority on Tantra, and international bestselling author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, The Art of Everyday Ecstasy, and Love, Sex and Awakening
“Through her own sexual healing journey and those of others, author and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet takes us back to a place where we can all develop the courage to reclaim our sexual desires. Living an Orgasmic Life is bound to become a go-to book for therapists, for healers, and for all of us.”
—Louann Brizendine, MD, New York Times bestselling author of The Female Brain and The Male Brain
“A woman who’s been there—out of touch with her own capacity for erotic connection and pleasure—and healed herself, tackles all the stumbling blocks for other people’s inability to touch this deep source of joy. Fraught social messages, shame, and trauma impact so many of us, but as Xanet Pailet shows, there IS a path out of that thicket and into intimacy, deep sexual pleasure, and a newly-awakened body. Take this journey with her and be amazed at the destination.”
—Carol Queen PhD, Staff Sexologist, Good Vibrations
“Xanet is a wise guide that you can trust to lead you to the pleasurable path of erotic empowerment. She’s been there herself and offers you a practical map that you can follow to get to the land of loving yourself, shame-free sex, and expanded outrageous orgasms! You deserve to feel this fantastic!”
—Sheri Winston, CNM, RN, LMT, Wholistic Sexuality Teacher, award-winning author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal and Succulent SexCraft
“The parts of this book that touched me deeply, and what will reach out and touch the hearts of so many women, are the moments when Xanet shares her personal journey of growth and transformation. Her vulnerability, raw honesty, and deep desire to learn and teach what is possible for women in the erotic realm touches on the hopes and insecurities we all have. By sharing those parts that we feel we are supposed to hide, she fearlessly invites women to know and accept themselves fully so they can claim their birthright of pleasure.”
—Celeste Hirschman, MA, cofounder Somatica Institute, author of Cockfidence and Making Love Real
“Can you imagine your life and loving to be abundant with creative energy, confidence, inner freedom, and good feelings about yourself, a state of being where old wounding no longer rules you and your sexual experience? This book contains the keys to unlock your sexual potential, open yourself to more bliss, and let go of what no longer serves you. Xanet’s practices and real-life stories will help you to heal any sexual wounds and move beyond shame into a powerful connection with yourself, transforming your entire life into an everyday orgasmic experience. While presenting a myriad of expertise and information, its easy-to-read style captivates the heart and soul and gently invites the reader to a journey of transformation and healing. A must-read for anyone willing to expand their horizon and live more orgasmically every day.”
—Lokita Carter, founder of Ecstatic Living Institute, creator of bestselling video programs on Tantra and Chakra Wisdom Meditation
“This book is an excellent blend of personal stories, solid research, useful ideas, and supportive suggestions. If you’re struggling to figure out how to connect to your pleasure, make sex exciting, and deepen your relationship, there’s plenty of great information here for you and your partner.”
—Charlie Glickman, PhD, Sex and Relationship coach, author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, www.makesexeasy.com
“Unabashed reality, heartfelt empathy, keen expertise—all three combine in this breakthrough work by Xanet Pailet. As a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach, I am always on the lookout for quality resources that will support my clients in finding their way to freedom in this area of their lives, and Living an Orgasmic Life is now at the top of my reading list for survivors who want to reclaim their sexuality.”
—Rachel Grant, author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stages in Recovery from Sexual Abuse and the Beyond Surviving podcast
“Xanet Pailet has written one of the most sex-positive books on women’s sexuality in Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken your Pleasure. This book will open hearts and minds and change lives! I highly recommend this as a must-read for all my colleagues & clients!”
—Rev. Michele Clarkson MSW, LCSW, AASECT Certified Diplomate Sex Therapist with thirty-nine years of experience in the field of sexology
Living an Orgasmic Life is dedicated to the teachers, mentors, and healers who have been such an integral part of my journey over the past decade. There are too many of them to list, but they know exactly who they are. Without their support, friendship, wisdom, and healing touch, my personal transformation, growth and sexual awakening would not have been possible. Words are insufficient to express my gratitude.
Copyright © 2018 Xanet Pailet
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Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure
Library of Congress Cataloging
ISBN: (p) 978-1-63353-826-9, (e) 978-1-63353-827-6
Library of Congress Control Number: 2018944499
BISAC - HEA042000 — HEALTH & FITNESS / Sexuality
Disclaimer
This book is partially a memoir in which I have tried to recreate events, locales, and conversations from my memory. However, to protect people’s privacy and anonymity, I have changed many identifying characteristics and details, such as names, places, and occupations. Individuals named in client stories are composite characters, gleaned from the hundreds of women and men who I have worked with.
This book is not intended as a substitute for the medical advice of physicians. The reader should regularly consult a health care provider in matters relating to his/her health and particularly with respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention.
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