‘Oh yes,’ said Liz. ‘All the time. All mothers get that – don’t they?’
Yes, I think they do. However, not all of them act on that intuition and most of them are completely oblivious to the fact that it is simply another one of their senses. Liz and her daughter were in tune with this aspect of their beings, but they had not yet recognised how to make the most of it. So far, they had reaped the benefits without looking too deeply into what was really happening, but the fact that Liz had experienced it so many times when her children needed her was proof enough for me. I had no doubt that if she and her daughter worked on developing their talents even more, and listening to their inner voices, their lives would be richer.
Very few people dispute that parent-child bonds exist, so why should there be resistance to taking this a step further and considering whether those bonds might be psychic ones? I think most people are unaware of how psychic they really are, but at one time or another they have had a ‘funny feeling’ that they’ve known something without ever having been told it. They know it but they don’t know how they know it. If that isn’t a psychic experience, then what is?
We don’t just receive information through taste, touch, sight, smell and sound, but also through intuition and body language, through telepathy and primal instinct. Some talk about the sixth sense, which includes all of that second group, but we probably have many more than even six. ‘Just knowing’, ‘gut instinct’, ‘just a feeling’ – we’ve all used these phrases, even the most cynical amongst us, and we should all act on the feelings they relate to. If we try and push our psychic abilities, they tend not to work – as you’ll know if you have ever tried to squeeze those lottery numbers out. This is because we are thinking too hard rather than letting our psychic energy flow. We need to sense rather than think, daydream rather than focus.
Within all of this psychic wonder, the bonds between mother and child are incredible, like a psychic version of the umbilical cord. While the umbilical cord nourishes and grows the child physically, the psychic cord nourishes and grows the child in a different way. We send love and caring, protection and feelings to our children through this link, and it exists forever.
We all exchange psychic energy with each other all of the time, but in a mother’s transactions with her child trust and protection are entrenched in their love for all of their journey through life. No matter what stage you are at in the process, remember that those in spirit are waiting to help us. We just need to open ourselves up to communicating with them and our children can show us the way. For those who are not parents, just spending time with children will help you to learn. By trusting our intuition around children, we can all have a more spiritual, more fulfilling journey through life.
Chapter 3
Lost and found
Sadly, not all pregnancies have happy outcomes. There have been occasions when I’ve predicted, or seen, the loss of babies who never reached the Earthly plane, and this presents problems for me when doing a reading. Should I refer to it or not? Is the person for whom I am reading ready to deal with it in a healthy way?
It is my personal view that, as souls, we’ve already made certain decisions about the life we will come here to live. We might choose to be on this plane for ninety years, just a few years, or we might even pass through without being born. What is important is that we complete whatever lesson it is necessary for us to learn, or teach. The ultimate goal is to expand the growth of the soul. Each time we come here with a different set of goals to add to the ones we have previously learned – or in some cases not learned, because there are people who continue to make the same mistakes over and over again. Mothers are a very special part of the wonderful journeys all souls make; in fact, those journeys would not be possible without them. I also believe that mothers make choices at some point about their own journeys, without being aware of it.
I realise that some readers will find this concept very hard to accept. They will never be able to imagine in some way having ‘agreed’ to the emotional pain and trauma of losing a child, for example. I speak from a higher spiritual perspective where there are concepts that are not always clear to those on this plane. When I went through my own darkness, before I understood these concepts, I would have considered such views to be nonsense but now I feel that there is a reason for everything. For all the pieces of the jigsaw to fall into place, everything in life must happen in a specific way.
It is necessary for us to complete each part of the journey by doing whatever we need to learn or teach. Any spirit can do one or the other, or a combination of both. I believe that women are hosts, in the nicest possible way, when they carry and give birth. You host a child into this world and prepare for the next stage when a soul will arrive and have an experience. Although we are responsible for our children until adulthood, it is up to them how they behave. As a mother, I find it hard to leave mine alone. I’m like a sheepdog herding them through life. But we all need to recognise that our children are here for their own journeys and we shouldn’t really interrupt that. If they do something wrong, it is part of their learning and parents need to stand back as much as they can.
This is a difficult area to understand. If your child has made some bad choices, what should you do? For example, if they are taking drugs your instinct as a parent will, of course, be to intervene. However, I think there comes a point, especially if the child is close to adulthood, when you have little option. No matter what you do, they’ll make their own choices. It is tough, but once you have looked after and protected them as a child you need to accept there is a cut-off point. You might not like that, you might not want it, but everyone makes their own choices and everyone has to go through their own learning process.
I’d like to emphasise that this is only my view, and I’m only one person. I don’t have the answer to everything, nor have I walked a mile in someone else’s shoes – but, if you are open to the idea of every soul being on a journey of experience, it may be useful to consider whether intervention by others is always the best approach.
Sarah’s baby
My understanding of how the ‘bigger picture’ works is best shown through some amazing experiences I have had. On one occasion I was in a house in Liverpool doing readings for five women. After the first two, a young woman of about twenty-five, called Sarah, came in. Everything was straightforward to begin with. I told her about the work she would do and what she wanted from her life, and it was all perfectly accurate. Suddenly, from spirit, a child’s energy appeared. I had to stop for a moment to gain a sense of what was happening and I realised that Sarah had lost a baby. I raised this with her and she revealed to me that she had indeed miscarried very recently. No one else knew about it. In fact, no one else had even known that Sarah was pregnant.
I could tell that she was scared about something, even though the pregnancy was over, and she confided that she was due to go into hospital the next day for a procedure to make sure that every part of the foetus and placenta was removed. This poor girl had such a mix of emotions surrounding her. She was grieving for her lost child, holding everything in as she hadn’t even gone public about the pregnancy before it ended, and terrified of the operation. However, she also had a sense of anger and guilt about her. I soon saw that she blamed herself for what had happened. Now, this is an area I feel very strongly about. While there are, of course, actions women can take that can damage their unborn children, I also believe that there are some souls who were never meant to be born. I’m not talking about babies who are lost through their mothers’ abuse of drink or drugs, or those who die because of some terrible accident, but of those who are simply not for this world.
Many will find this hard to understand, or may not want to understand, but it links into what I said earlier about us all choosing who our parents will be, even when that choice will bring difficult life experiences. It is all part of the journey we must take to make us stronger and better. Some souls agree to a contract whereby they will never be part of the Earthly plane, but their presence in the womb, even if it is only for a short while, will develop them or the woman who carries them for those few weeks or months. I know this explanation may be upsetting for anyone who has experienced