Praise for The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot
“Ann Grant’s legal, financial, and psychological expertise helps the reader skillfully prepare and protect herself as she navigates the messy minefield of a modern divorce — proactively, efficiently, resiliently. Grant’s detailed tips guide the reader step-by-step through the practical nuts and bolts of recruiting resources and developing parenting and employment/business plans, all the while healing the grief and sustaining genuine well-being. The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot is terrific; it’s the quintessential road map for meeting change with courage and developing the skills to create a new life.”
— Linda Graham, MFT, author of The Resilience Toolkit: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster
“In The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot, Ann Grant encourages divorcing women to ‘be better, not bitter.’ With her compassionate and levelheaded advice, she shows you how to reclaim your power, cultivate well-being, and forge a path to a better life.”
— Christine Hassler, author of Expectation Hangover
“Wow! This is the comprehensive guide to everything you need to know about surviving a divorce with your sanity in check and your checkbook intact. Ann Grant’s help starts from the time you suspect there may be a problem in your relationship and carries right through to settling into your next chapter. Her advice is wise, her examples are relatable, and her book is a must-read before, during, and after the uncoupling process.”
— Lois P. Frankel, PhD, author of Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich and Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Grant, Ann E., author.
Title: The divorce hacker’s guide to untying the knot: what every woman needs to know about finances, child custody, lawyers, and planning ahead / Ann E. Grant, JD.
Description: Novato, California: New World Library, 2018. | Includes index.
Identifiers: LCCN 2018020151 (print) | LCCN 2018020892 (ebook) | ISBN 9781608685615 (ebook) | ISBN 9781608685608 (alk. paper)
Subjects: LCSH: Divorce—Law and legislation—United States—Popular works. | Divorce—Law and legislation—California—Popular works. | Divorced women—United States—Handbooks, manuals, etc.
Classification: LCC KF535.Z9 (ebook) | LCC KF535.Z9 G733 2018 (print) | DDC 346.7301/66—dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2018020151
First printing, September 2018
ISBN 978-1-60868-560-8
Ebook ISBN 978-1-60868-561-5
Printed in Canada on 100% postconsumer-waste recycled paper
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This book is dedicated to every woman who is struggling in an unfulfilling marriage and doesn’t know what to do. I hope that in these pages you find the courage and wisdom to take whatever action is required to lead a satisfying life — and to take back your power.
Contents
Chapter 1: Preparing to Get What You Need
Know the Three Ways to Get Divorced
Handling Issues Concerning Your Children
Consider Your Living Situation
Learn the Fair Market Value of Your Home
Facing the Truth of Infidelity
When It’s Time to Admit the Marriage Is Over
Regain Control If Your Husband Filed First
Retain Counsel but Arm Yourself with Knowledge
When to Hire a Divorce Financial Planner
Establish and Build Your Credit
How and When to Tell Children You Are Divorcing