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связаны с обсессиями – навязчивыми мыслями (обсессивно-компульсивное расстройство).

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      Оригинальные источники указаны в конце книги.

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      Копинг-стратегии (от англ. coping – совладание) – стратегии, позволяющие справиться с ситуацией.

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      Виктимность (от лат. victima – жертва) – склонность становиться жертвой преступления, обстоятельств, несправедливого обращения и т. п. – Прим. ред.

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