The Parental Leave Playbook. Sue Campbell. Читать онлайн. Newlib. NEWLIB.NET

Автор: Sue Campbell
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advocate for him at school when he was struggling. I watched his contagious smile spread when he described her as his go-to person if he was upset or heartbroken. He said he hoped his wife would have a chance to be that person to their new baby.

      Yet Kenny found himself about to be a first-time dad in a city away from family support, with a wife whose job was more demanding (and lucrative) than his. Circumstances meant that it was more likely that he would need to be the go-to for his new child, but even though he was open to the idea, he believed he had no good role models for how to do that. His supervisor had some experience managing other dads through parental leave and had seen indications that Kenny might struggle to overcome some outdated notions of what a dad's role should be and rise to the challenge of what would be required of him at home. I was called in to work with Kenny because his manager was concerned that if Kenny was unable to find ways to be a successful caregiver at home, he would encounter difficulty, even strife, and that struggle would spill over into how he would be able to show up at work. With the authentic support from his manager and the focused time we had together, Kenny was able to recognize that he did have a strong working parent role model: his mother. He tapped into the skills she had taught him and was able to beautifully manage his dual roles.

       Yourself

      Whether you are a mom or a dad, the shock of this transition can be exacerbated by any role and identity confusion you might experience when you become a parent, and again when you go back to work. This can be particularly challenging if you are like many of our clients at the Center for Parental Leave Leadership and the work you do is a big part of your identity—after all, you have already spent a significant portion of your life building your career and the majority of your waking hours working. You may feel like you have your current work life pretty well figured out. You understand your role at work, and you have a home life that is, to some extent, chosen and predictable.

      The shift to a working parent identity can bring intense inner turmoil as you try to balance and integrate changing priorities and increased responsibilities at home with those at work.

      Although understanding your own role and identity changes through this transition is crucial, it can also help to think about the people around you and how the roles they play may affect your leave experience and employment (see sidebar Stats: Moms versus Dads).

      Stats: Moms versus Dads

       How Parenthood Affects Employment

       56% of mothers and 50% of fathers say juggling work and family life is difficult.1

       Childcare and family obligations are the top reason keeping women “of prime age” (25–54) from working in formal employment. For men of the same age, the top reason for not working is health limitations, followed by inability to find work.2

       46% of women and 23% of men list childcare or other family obligations as a reason they are not working.3

       Full Time, Part Time, or No Time

       76% of people think full-time work is ideal for fathers; only 33% say the same for mothers.4

       96.2% of employed fathers work full time; 78.5% of employed mothers work full time.5

       39% of people who believe one parent should not work full time say the mother should be the one to not work, or to work part time, as compared to 5% who say the stay-at-home (or part-time) parent should be the father.6

       Mompreneurs

       80% of mompreneurs started their business after having children, with 69% citing flexibility as the top advantage of having their own business and 71% indicating they are the primary childcare provider.7

       Involved Parenting

       80% of women and 74% of men believe that women face a lot of pressure to be an involved parent; 43% of women and 56% of men believe the same of men.8

       When both parents work, moms are more likely to take on more responsibility for sick children (47% moms versus 6% dads) and to be responsible for managing children's schedule and activities (54% moms versus 39% dads).9

       The Value of Our Contributions

       Society puts greater value on men's contributions at work (53%) versus home (5%) and conversely greater value on women's contributions at home (28%) versus work (15%). There is a higher expectation that women contribute in both arenas (56%) as compared to men (41%).10

       Parenthood Bias

       27% of mothers and 20% of fathers have been treated as if they were not committed to their work.11

       19% of mothers and 14% of fathers have been passed over for an important assignment.12

       19% of mothers and 13% of fathers have been passed over for promotion.13