Bringing to Australia the greatest leaders in sales and personal development over the last 27 years, to help all Australians, has been my driving passion. Sandy MacGregor is a leader in the personal development field – he shares his powerful story and will show you step-by-step, how to Create Happiness Intentionally.
Terry Butler
The Seminar Company
Sandy’s system really works, and – best of all – his positive impact on your life will last!
Dr. Denis Waitley
Author – “The Psychology of Winning”
Sandy MacGregor gives practical, reflective exercises to enable anyone to identify their life purpose. This book will enlighten many readers – and change lives.
Robyn Henderson
Global Networking Specialist
In 37 years of presenting to world audiences I know how extraordinary events impact profoundly on shaping a person’s character and philosophy of life. Sandy MacGregor is one such person who has grown from his experiences of extreme tragedy and triumph to enable him to coach others to find their Life’s Purpose. I recommend you DO THIS BOOK.
Jim Rohn
Trainer and Author – “The Five Major Pieces to the Life Puzzle”
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First published in Australia August 2000
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Creating Happiness Intentionally
by
Sandy MacGregor
Dedication
To all those who have generously shared their personal experiences of inner strength including joining in discussions and attending CHI Seminars. You have validated the techniques shared and expressed in this book. Thank you for helping me along my own journey of learning, personal growth and Life’s Purpose.
Acknowledgements
I want to give my grateful thanks to David Mason-Jones for his professional advice and writing and editing ideas that have been incorporated in this book.
My wife Sandra for her love, enthusiasm, encouragement and practical help with, as always, reading, typing and thoughtful suggestions.
Lorna Stewart for her editing, writing, constant support and her lucid thought process.
Dr Karen Hutchings – many thanks for her invaluable advice and clear feedback.
Dennis Ayoub for being a ‘good mate’ and inspiring me with his courage and humour.
Vivienne Randall for her refreshingly wonderful outlook on life, her helpful feedback and generously allowing me to use her story.
I am very grateful and thank sincerely those who have given time from their busy and successful lives to support me by endorsing this book.
There are others too numerous to mention who have helped me along the way and I thank you.
Contents
Chapter 1How We Crave Happiness1
Chapter 2Square Peg, Round Hole?15
Chapter 3Building Your Peaceful Place23
Chapter 4Using Creativity to Find Answers37
Chapter 5Alone With My Deepest Thoughts42
Chapter 6 What is Happiness?55
Chapter 7Fr. Justin Belitz’s Seven F’s64
Chapter 8What is Frustration?68
Chapter 9Seven Questions73
Chapter 10 Some Of The Basic Psychology Of It All78
Chapter 11More Psychology Fight or Flight86
Chapter 12This Is Me95
Chapter 13Happy Synapses for an Emotional Anchor100
Chapter 14Change112
Chapter 15My Hopes and Aspirations122
Chapter 16Creating Positive Energy131
Chapter 17 Why Are You Reading This Book?146
Chapter 18 A Journey of a Thousand Miles156
Chapter 19Values160
Chapter 20Goals168
Chapter 21Resolving Conflict Between Goals & Values182
Chapter 22 Jumble200
Chapter 23Your Reasons For Wanting Your Goal208
Chapter 24Balanced Goals217
Chapter 25Spiritual Purpose or Higher Purpose223
Chapter 26To Go It Alone Or Do It With Others?238
Chapter 27Relationships245
Chapter 28Running Your Own Race254
Chapter 29Tools – A Little A Lot262
Chapter 30The Goal Book and Action Plan268
Chapter 31Life’s Purpose Now280
Appendix A Books Tapes and Videos289
Appendix B CALM Seminars 296
Foreword
I first met Sandy in early 1994 shortly after the murder of my son Michael. I was in the depths of depression, angry at the world and had revenge as a focus. I approached him knowing that with the murder of his three daughters, he had experienced what I was going through.
Sandy began to bring some sense to my life to the point where I was prepared to participate in his CALM LIFE SKILLS Seminar. What a profound positive difference this made to my life.
Sandy has worked with tens of thousands of people, mostly Australian, some of whom faced an enormous range of trials, difficulties and challenges. This has put him in a position to observe closely the strengths and weaknesses of people in all walks of life and recognise the points of character typifying those who are happy and those who are not.
Since 1990 Sandy has conducted seminars Australia wide and some overseas. He is a man who walks his talk and demonstrates how he values the individual.