Born-Again Marriage. Dr. Bonnie Psy.D. Libhart

      Possessions weren’t the answer to our problems. They didn’t bring us closer to each other or in the true sense enrich our lives. Nor did they do much for any of our friends who chased things.

      But the chart and the goal listing below can help you examine how ‘things” stack up in your own life.

These are my Possessions	Scale 1-10 Happiness	Hours To Earn	Long time benefit	Was it worth it? Yes/No
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      This is your present net worth analysis. Next comes setting goals for the future. Goals must be personal, realistic and attainable. They have to be short-range (cook his favorite meal) or long-range (save money for vacation), tangible (lose ten pounds) or intangible (become a friendlier person).

      GOAL LISTING

      Goals for my marriage, personal and business life or possessions were born from within myself. My dream was to achieve something—knowing that it would happen. (I told myself, “I can remember names.” Within weeks I could do it. When I say, “I can” I’m right. When I say, “I can’t” I’m right.)

      I started by first making a dream list of all the possessions and assets I wanted. (I had to take off the judge’s robe. Remember, we’re dreaming.)

      Examples:

      1. Finish my high school or college education.

      2. Earn $_____ per year.

      3. Take the kids on outing twice a week.

      Now list some dream goals of your own:

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      I then listed them in the order of their importance to me, and examined how achieving each of these dreams would affect each area of my life:

      (see chart below)

      DREAM GOAL-

      POSSESSIONS-

      HEALTH-

      FRIENDS-

      EDUCATION-

      FUN-

      GOD-

      OTHER-

      Then I started working on number one, and signed and dated it.

      After I had gone through all this goal setting and striving after achievement, I still was unhappy. “Maybe if I were one of the “in” people, “I thought, “Maybe that would bring me happiness!