When you are not authentic “they” will sense it. They may not know what they are sensing, but they know something is not right.
You can’t hide it, because it’s true; you are not being true to yourself. Those amazing elements you saw didn’t work because they aren’t yours. They don’t fit your personality, style, and message.
I am not suggesting that you avoid watching top performers in your field . . . in fact I recommend you watch as many as you possibly can. HOWEVER, it is important to watch and evaluate other presentations, and then implement changes in the proper manner.
Power Tip
When observing a master of
your craft, watch for those
strategic elements that generate
success.
As you observe a leader watch for strategic elements that:
Create a strong connection to the audience
Establish a story within the story
Trigger an emotional response from the audience
Illustrate a need or benefit to THEM
Move the audience toward action
Assist the audience in taking responsibility
Help the audience say YES
For each element you identify, ask:
What was the intent of the element?
How did this particular element relate to other elements already presented?
What specific wording was used that was effective?
Is there a place in my presentation where I need to create the same effect or impact?
How can I create the same effect IN MY OWN WAY based on what I saw?
These questions help you identify the strategic elements and the strategic placement of those elements in your own presentation.
Notice that the objective is to FIND YOUR OWN WAY, to create the effect using the example of what you saw, not replicating the exact style you saw.
Having fallen into this trap myself a number of times I know how easily and quickly it happens. It has happened to almost every client I have worked with. Be aware of the issue and always work on
“Finding your OWN voice!”
Always be authentic
Be True to Yourself!
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You got your very first real
job...
Dishwasher, Grocery Bagger,
Waitress, or Stock Boy
You were embarrassed to
admit that you were doing
“that” job, and your mother
suggested that you
“Take Pride in what you do,
regardless of what you do.”
If you are unable to
Take Pride in What You Do
Maybe you shouldn’t be doing it!
There will be no Sugarcoating this:
If you don’t like the company you work for . . . LEAVE
If you don’t like the product or service you sell . . . find a new product or service
If you don’t like the work you do . . . . change the way you work or change your work
If you don’t like the people you work with . . . learn to adapt or find new people
If you don’t like your friends . . . get new friends
If you don’t like your family . . . suck it up, they are your family and the only ones who HAVE to love you!
If you don’t take pride in the work you do, the training you deliver, and the products and services you sell “they” will know it.
They see right through any facade you try to put up and it will act like a huge brick wall standing between you and great success. If you simply cannot take pride in what you do you need to Find Your Passion.
Take Pride in What You Do
and
Success will come.
4
You did something, and you
tried to blame someone else.
Maybe you had a sibling
named “I Dunno” as in:
“Who made this mess?”
“I Dunno!”
You may have thought your
parents had the word STUPID
stamped on their foreheads but
they knew,
and you were told to
“Take Responsibility.”
I have spent time with thousands of seminar attendees, conference goers, and clients, and the thing that concerns me most about our society and where it is going over the next 20 years is
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
It would seem these days that the majority of people think someone else should be responsible for everything.
Here are some shocking real life examples I have experienced recently with clients and attendees:
A client paid for 12 hours of coaching and only used 2 hours of time in a year because “they were too busy to get coaching”
25 people registered AND PAID for a webinar, and 14 showed up
A client who has a library of development resources that he admitted he has never looked at
A classroom attendee asked her boss if she should spend $40 on a book that would help her
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