The Art of Being You. SRI PUBLICATIONS SRI

      This ancient wisdom that has been handed down through the ages is a precious gift. It will restore you to that centered space within you where love, happiness and peace abide.

      We think we can find happiness or comfort through material things, but we know from our own experience that material comfort alone is not sufficient. Happiness is a state of being. Comfort is a quality of consciousness. It does depend on material things, but to a far greater degree it depends on our attitude and understanding.

       There is no lack of love in you, no lack of anything whatsoever.All wealth lies within you as you are right now.

      Every human being is made up of body, mind and spirit. It is possible to ignore the spiritual aspect of life, but count yourself fortunate if you are growing in awareness of this dimension.

      Each one of us has come into this world to express the joy, love and peace that we are but we can remain unaware of our inner wealth all our lives. Do not delay. Get back to your Self with all speed. You have been standing at the doorstep long enough; now it is time to bang on the door. When you shut the door to what is past and come into the present, then an inner door opens. In that moment, you feel at peace.

       SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT

       Why Am I Here?

       Questioner:

      How can I find out what I am here for?

       Sri Sri:

      Find out what you are not here for.

       You are not here to blame.

       You are not here to cry.

       You are not here to show off.

       You are not here to fight.

       You are not here to be miserable.

       You are not here to be angry.

       You are not here to worry.

       Chapter Two

      Getting Started

       Are you relaxed, unflappable, at ease in the world and enjoying yourself? These qualities are hallmarks of spiritual life.

       JUST SHOW UP

      What is asked of you on the spiritual path? Simply that you be present. Being present means you are here in this moment…and this moment…and now in this moment. How do you get pulled out of the present moment? When your mind goes to the past or the future, as is its habit; when you are absorbed in situations and events that are changing and passing; or in what someone has said or done—you are not in the present moment. When you are caught up in blaming and complaining; in wanting this and not wanting that—you are not in the present moment.

      Sometimes the spiritual aspect of life itself is seen as drawing us away from daily life. It is true that spiritual life benefits one from time set aside for worship, prayer, meditation and silence. It is also true that each moment, however that moment is, is your spiritual life. Running another load of laundry, running late for work, the friend who hung up on you in anger, the relationship you wonder if you should stay in, and laughter, celebration, falling in love—all this is your spiritual life.

      All that you seek—love, beauty, God, truth—can only be found in the present. Awareness, the ability to be present to the present, is both a gift and a tool for the spiritual journey.

      On the spiritual path your personality will become stable and strong, and life will attain its richest and fullest form. You will experience and express the love and happiness that are your nature.

       SHAKE HANDS WITH WHAT IS

       Accept the Present Moment As It Is

      A next step is to accept this moment as it is. There is nothing you can do to change it—it has already happened. Change can only happen in the next moment. Often acceptance is taken to mean as ‘giving up’—not taking action or not creating change where change is needed. That is not so. Only when you accept what is, you can become calm, think clearly and act powerfully to change what needs to be changed. This is called dynamic acceptance and it affects your state of mind:

      DON’T ACCEPT WHAT IS;MIND IN PIECES ACCEPT WHAT IS: MIND AT PEACE

       Accept Other People As They Are

      The second aspect of accepting what is, is to accept other people as they are. Acceptance is not a passive thing. It does not mean that you tolerate rude, unjust or hurtful behavior. It means that if you accept a person who is taking a wrong action, your own mind will be calm and any action you take will be appropriate and effective.

       DON’T ACCEPT OTHERS AS THEY ARE: ACT, THEN THINK ACCEPT OTHERS AS THEY ARE: THINK, THEN ACT

      Non-acceptance causes you to react. If you react when someone upsets you, you are no longer in control. Whatever you do in this circumstance, you will regret later. Take a moment to think back. Hasn’t this happened to you many times?

      When you can say to yourself, “For some reason, this is the best that this person has to offer right now,” you will be set free. You will not be frustrated anew each time the objectionable behavior is repeated. In accepting others as they are, you create a clear space where you can respond in an appropriate and effective way. The problem may remain, but you will no longer be in its grip.

      Accepting other people as they are is not always easy, but is it any easier not to accept them? You only become more agitated, and dwelling on another person’s mistake can cause you to make a mistake. It can be a simple shift to accept people as they are, and when that shift happens, a big load is lifted.

      When you accept people as they are, those people benefit also. You give them room to change.

      WHAT YOU CAN DO

      If you have trouble letting go of the feeling. “He shouldn’t have said that or she shouldn’t have done that,” remember that whatever behavior the person exhibited was the best they had to offer at that moment. Some circumstance or event, known or unknown to you, caused that person to act as they did. If you don’t know what that was, try imagining an experience this person might have had that could be behind the rude or hurtful behavior. It also might help you to see this person with compassion, if you can recall something that you had said or done yourself that you later regretted.

      As you look for the possible explanations for the actions of others, simultaneously take responsibility for your own. Usually, we do just the opposite— we hold others responsible for what they do and excuse ourselves—“I didn’t mean to say that, I didn’t mean it that way.”

      Excusing or forgiving others is important for spiritual growth. In accepting others, you benefit yourself. The more you are able to accept others as they are, the more you will be able to accept yourself as you are. The reverse of this is also true—the more you accept yourself, the more you will be accepting others. Start anywhere in the equation and you will find that a new freedom comes to you and to the people around you.