Our initial steps were to examine our lives and ask ourselves the big questions: Are we where we want to be? If not, how can we get there? What do we really, truly want out of our lives? If we died today, what would we regret? And what can we do to begin changing that right now?
I wish I could say our journey was easy – that paying off $50,000 in debt, starting a lucrative side business, and changing the way we thought about money was a breeze – but I’d be lying if I did. The truth is, figuring out that we needed to change was a piece of cake. Actually changing ourselves and our behavior? That was an enormous challenge.
We wanted it so badly that we were willing to do anything to change our situation for the better. We wanted a new life – one without the pain and stress we had endured for so long – filled with more joy, more fun, and (most of all) more freedom.
The money connection made more and more sense as we plotted our path toward a debt-free, more exciting, and easier life. If we could just get our money straight, we figured, we could live the life we wanted. Unlike some of our customers who had spent decades in careers they hated to retire in a heap of misery and disgust, we could save our money, invest wisely, become more responsible spenders, and create any life of our choosing.
What a gift that realization was! Once we made that connection, we began to see our customers as our potential future selves. We looked at their sometimes tragic ends not just through the lens of shared humanity, but as if we could see ourselves in their shoes.
We began tying their final outcomes to the things they did and didn’t do along the way. The father who didn’t have life insurance and left a wife and three kids with almost nothing. The couple who saved 10 years for a Hawaiian cruise to celebrate the husband’s 55th birthday, only for him to die a week before. And the woman who confessed privately that she’d been counting down to her husband’s death for years so she could finally spend all the money she’d saved without guilt.
But for every lesson in what not to do, we also found stories of inspiration. We buried people who lived full, wonderful lives without an ounce of regret (according to their loved ones, anyway), and we saw ends that were both dignified and motivating. We buried people who were true heroes – beloved by their families, accomplished, and seemingly at peace with everything left done and undone. And we knew that’s what we wanted.
By now you’re probably wondering what all of this has to do with you. But just as we were inspired to change our lives, there’s a reason you picked up this book, too. Perhaps the title spoke to you – the idea of becoming debt-free and accomplishing a list of goals yourself. Or maybe you’re just tired of living paycheck to paycheck, and ready for something better – something more.
Either way, a zero-sum budget is the key to getting what you want out of life. We suggest “zeroing down your debt” because that is exactly what we did. Can you imagine becoming debt-free without hitting the lottery or receiving a big inheritance? It’s time to start.
I believe you can do it with every fiber of my being, and it’s not just because I’m an optimist; it’s because I’ve done it myself. With just a paper and pen, my family went from struggling to get by to saving a large percentage of our income, reaching small and mid-sized goals, and planning a future that includes checking off our bucket list – one big goal at a time.
The amazing part about what I’m suggesting is that you don’t even need anything to get started. Other than this book, all you need is a pen, some paper, and a sincere desire to change your life in powerful, long-lasting ways. There’s nothing to buy and nothing to download. Yet, following the advice in this book will buy you more freedom than you ever dreamed.
“We all have one life to live on this planet – one life! Yet, far too many of us don’t really know what we want – just that we don’t have it. We spend too much, don’t save enough, and believe the lie that it’s all out of our hands.”
My time in the mortuary business fundamentally changed me, and I feel compelled to share the lessons in this book with everyone who will listen. I feel it’s my calling to shake some sense into people before it’s too late. We all have one life to live on this planet – one life! Yet, far too many of us don’t really know what we want – just that we don’t have it. We spend too much, don’t save enough, and believe the lie that it’s all out of our hands.
It doesn’t have to be that way. With the right attitude, anyone can turn their situation around and start living the life they dreamed. Yes, you read that right. Anyone.
An elderly woman once told me that I would look back one day and realize all that mattered was memories. And time is the most important thing, she said – more important than the world’s most valuable possessions. “Be careful with your time,” she said, because one day you’ll look back and realize that “it’s the only thing you really ever had.”
Hearing those words changed me because I knew they were true. The stuff we buy will all be worthless one day, and the material possessions we pined over won’t mean a thing. But how we spent our time – and what kind of lives we lived – will linger in our memories for as long as we have them.
If you’re like I was, you’re finally realizing you want more than the memories of slaving away at a thankless job, of stressing over your debts, of putting in overtime at work to catch up instead of spending that time with your family. You want more than a mediocre existence; you don’t want to look back with regret; you want to look back in awe.
All of that and more can be yours, but you have to truly want it.
Remember, everything matters – even what you’re doing right now. And there’s no better way to spend your time than plotting your journey out of debt and toward the life of your dreams.
So let’s get started.
How to Use This Book
The purpose of this book is to help you zero down your debt so that you can live a fulfilling and exciting life. That’s hard to do when you’re constantly working to pay off debt. We want to help you reclaim your power, to put you back in control of your life, and to provide you with options you didn’t even know existed.
Sound too good to be true? That’s OK. At this point, all we’re asking you to do is read the book and apply the system. The rest will take care of itself.
If you do the work, the results will come.
Action Items
When we think in terms of the big picture, things often feel overwhelming. Getting out of debt can seem the same way. But when we break things down into small, actionable items, large ideas suddenly become manageable. Big goals are always accomplished through a series of small actions, and that is exactly what we are going to do here.
At the beginning of each chapter, we’ll provide an overview of what you should learn. Once you’ve read through the chapter, you’ll notice a list of “Action Items” to accomplish. These are simple, small, actionable tasks that you can use to seize control of your finances – one small step at a time. We’ll explain exactly what’s required, but it’s up to you to take it from there and put it into practice.
Just as reading a magazine about weight lifting won’t whip you into shape, reading this book without taking action won’t get you out of debt. Use the action items like you would a workout routine. Complete the workout, and you’ll see the results. Do nothing, and you’ll be left making excuses as to why it doesn’t work.
The 10 Fundamental Truths of Destroying Debt and Building Real Wealth
Let’s start things off with a bang! Throughout this book, we’ll be referring to 10 important principles we believe are the foundations to destroying debt and building real wealth. We think these principles can fundamentally alter the way you think about – and