Approaches to Behavior. Janis Roszler

in yourself. You may bend over backward to keep that side of yourself hidden, but it is possible that you have it. In fact, all the qualities we notice in others, both good and bad, may be qualities we have in varying amounts in ourselves.

      To better accept or understand Mrs. Groan’s behavior, try to reflect on and embrace that part of yourself. Look at the positive side of this hidden area of your personality—what Carl Jung refers to as our “shadow”:

      Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. “If we are aware of a particular issue or pattern, one always has a chance to correct it … But if it is repressed and isolated from consciousness, it never gets corrected (Jung, 1975).

      Let’s give it a try: