Some assistants who have just started their career try to work in a prestigious company with a well-known person, and sometimes they don’t understand the price they pay. But the same goes for small companies and unknown executives – the issue will be the same. A good situation is if you really love your boss and the company. Even if there are some complicated situations, you simply don’t care about all these problems. Because you love your boss and your company, these situations don’t matter to you. You wake up in the morning and you’re totally happy because you want to go to work.
But, and there is a big but, if you are not comfortable because of the boss, or because of the company, and you don’t look for something else – it will become you biggest problem. When you work at a job where you truly don’t belong, where the atmosphere is uncomfortable, the challenge is you can start thinking that this situation is normal. This is something you must guard against because it is not normal and you should not consider it normal. If you accept the circumstances, which should not be accepted by default – the result could be that you get sick often, get stressed, or worse, you could fall into depression.
Many of us have forgotten that we should be happy at work. You should be happy in what you do, where you do it, and whom you work for. But, very often we’re afraid to take that step and check the market and try to find a better job. We try to convince ourselves that things are fine, we can handle it, we are strong, we can put up with the situation for another year.
Mentally, we accept the bad terms and are afraid to change something. A simple example: I would never work with someone who smokes. Good salary, good location? No, no, no! I cannot handle the smell of cigarettes. If I breathe it – I feel unhealthy.
Working in a place where you don’t feel good about the job or the environment is bad for your mental health. Speak to psychologists. They will tell you that there is nothing worse than being in a place where you feel nervous all the time, it’s even worse than breathing cigarette smoke.
So other than the necessity I mentioned earlier, there is no reason to accept working somewhere where you are not happy. I have a lot of examples in my career when I meet assistants and they look very, very tired. They don’t look happy. They look as though they are barely surviving.
Work should be a very nice and attractive journey. Yes, we should learn how to work in different companies and with different people. And you should try. But, if you are sure it is not a good match – look for another job. Otherwise your work life will be one of trying to survive.
As Jan Jones, author of “The CEO’s Secret Weapon” told me, “You cannot do your best, most productive work if you are in an environment that doesn’t promote or support your mental and physical well-being. If there are tweaks or changes that can be made to your workplace by discussing the situation with your boss, you should do so. You may be surprised to learn that they value you and would like to make the changes in order to keep you and improve the overall workplace morale. But if your efforts fall on deaf ears, you should consider making a move. Otherwise, your creativity and motivation will suffer and you may develop negative work habits. Low morale workplaces are simply not conducive to high performance”.
What Kind of Boss You Are: Mistaken or Learning?
This is a differentiation for me here when I try to understand what kind of boss I talk to. We all make mistakes. I’ve never ever seen an assistant who doesn’t do mistakes. Actually haven’t seen any other my colleague who does not. There are no ideal people, there are ideal intentions – somebody said.
Long ago, one of the company’s owners whom I talked to said, that it’s much more efficient to learn people, then to criticize them. He said, “I do never tell people, that they have done a mistake. We try to discuss the situation and understand why it happened as it is and look for a proper solution to learn how not to do in future. Maybe this is the reason why I have many employees working with me for 8—10 years and more. I do really appreciate their adherence to my company. This is the trust which cannot be replaced by anything”.
Obviously, for many of us critics it’s a kind of a signal that we need to review our approaches, but on the other hand, many of us are very upset to find out that something wrong was done. When we see the understanding that nobody is ideal and to be mistaken – it is ok, and the approach is to learn together and talk – this is absolutely another story. For company it means much more loyal employees, because nobody likes to be criticized. Of course, depends on situation, but in most cases – to be learnt is more efficient.
Is it worth to say that when we are afraid to be mistaken – our chances to mess up grow rapidly?
So, if you’re the boss, what kind of boss you are – mistaken or learning?
IV. Where to Find Time for Everything? Be in the Stream
Sometimes, I’ve being asked – you have a lot of everything, how do you find time, any secrets from time management point of view? Well, probably yes, but on the other side, it’s only 24 hours in a day and nobody can do everything. And I’m the human being like others, and it’s sometimes difficult to be everywhere. But…
I will tell just you – I almost don’t use calendar. I have only one set up on my phone, and it’s more like reminder, but not calendar. It doesn’t mean that I don’t plan – of course I do. But, the value is not in planning, the value is in determining what matters for you and simply doing it to achieve what you want. Exactly doing. It means that I try not to spend the precious time for something I don’t like. It might very well be that you will think something like – hey, we cannot do just what we want. Yes, it’s true. But to be in the stream with your own wishes and move step by step to be more and more involved in what really matters for you, it’s the whole art, I will tell you. And I learn. I learnt, and I continue doing.
And the job it’s also the part of it. There will be no success if you are not in the stream. You will never find time, if you’re not in the stream. And to make time for what matters – it’s exactly the main and on the top of all secrets. Because there are no secrets at all. There is just your wish to understand what you really want. We all have the capacity to do more, we all have energy, but you can see the result only if you move the right direction. Your right direction. Your stream.
V. How is that – To Be Proactive?
The question seems to be silly, but I decided to stop by because personally faced the situation that sometimes my young colleagues cannot understand what it is exactly about.
For example, you’re working during 1—2 years on the position where there is only one requirement – do well what you’re asked for. Then you found another job in another company where the basic principal is – that nobody will push you.
Btw, most of Western companies work like this. Yes, you have initial responsibilities, but to be able to achieve something in this company (and what is more important to grow) means that you should take more than is expected from you.
Always to be at least one step ahead…
Shortly,