The Prayer. Yeyazel

we are unique human beings and we have the right to live like any other person and any other living human being; and who will never do this work to keep us alive?

      At the beginning of our life, when we are little and vulnerable, they are our parents who take on this duty, they are also happy because it is beautiful to have care of another life, especially if it has been generated by us.

      This is altruism, but this happens not when we are children, but as adults.

      As long as one does not become an adult, they are the parents who take care of survival, but gradually that the child grows, he begins more and more to have independence and, therefore, also full of responsibility towards himself and his own safeguard.

      And, as adults, the burden of responsibility is completely in the hands of the person who, if he has followed a harmonious development of self-love, of healthy selfishness mentioned above, is fully developed.

      But our society, on the other hand, shows and inexorably demonstrates that this is not the case for almost the entire population.

      If, on the one hand, the survival instinct works at the level of impending danger, that is, soon pay attention to everything that could kill me quickly, then, for example, cross the road carefully to avoid being hit by a car, o avoid risky behaviors such as protruding from a terrace or eating visibly damaged food, on the other hand we have a whole series of behaviors of self-destruction of our body and ourselves on the social level.

      This is an example of all of us, in order not to go into too much detail with so many examples, the habit of smoking or alcohol.

      Perfect behavior completely against nature, because any creature in nature goes against its own instinct to preserve its own individuality or species.

      Anyone, even children in primary schools, can understand that if such habits do not bring any benefit, but rather only more or less serious and invalidating diseases, up to death, they must be absolutely avoided. All this is perfectly understood by smokers or alcoholics, even though they are looking for excuses to avoid such an argument, such responsibility towards themselves, such as "I will have to die of something", or "even so much air is full of poisons".

      But the self-evident truth is that it is better to avoid anything that approaches death, whatever makes me grow older, whatever makes me invalid in any way.

      This is because nobody is happy when he finds himself unable to do something because he no longer has the strength or ability, nobody lives well if he is sick and anyone, however hard the hard, outlawed model of the old Western films, is terrified by the approaching death.

      Yet this, like many other self-harm behaviors, is the norm in our society.

      Why?

      Because we fail to love our self, we have not been able to develop that healthy selfishness which was necessary and vital when we were children.

      We did not succeed because everything around us helped to make sure that we lacked such of our self love, even our parents, our first and essential models, lacked such an amor of their own, because, like us, they underwent the same treatment, at the time of their childhood. And, the lack of self-love was the basis for all the rest of our problems that we have had since then, which then diversified from one person to another.

      Therefore, someone chose to react with violence and became a criminal; someone decided not to face the situation, and at some point in his life, he found himself with attacks of anxiety and panic; someone else decided not to deserve anything, and he became an individual without dreams or hopes.

      In the process of our existence, problems have diversified and everyone has dealt with them in a different way, but the common ground is this, the lack of love.

      And the lack of love is filled by the opposite of love: fear, a word that unites too a whole series of different problems, different disorders, different ways of reacting.

      If there is love for ourselves, there is security there, while insecurity is fear.

      Wherever there is peace, serenity, joy and happiness, thanks to love, the lack of this, it becomes restlessness, pessimism, resignation, sadness, always and in any case fear.

      The fear does not exist.

      Fear, properly said, serves to our survival, therefore it is necessary; then I will not throw myself down from a precipice because the fear of dying will prevent me from dying, but then I should not even light the other cigarette, because fear connected to individual survival should prevent it.

      On the other hand, being afraid of what might happen, that is, concern, is meaningless, especially if you do not have the power to change anything.

      Therefore, to be afraid of an impending war, for example, doesn't carry anywhere, because it is not only something that is not within our reach, we can't do anything, it also ruins our actual existence and doesn't make us live peacefully; we spend time thinking about how to bind our heads in the event of a possible injury without realizing the uselessness of this attitude.

      By this I do not mean not to be wise or cautious, not to make estimates or predictions before any action, all this is right; what I mean is that, once all the necessary measures have been taken, it is useless to continue to worry further.

      In the case, for example, of smoking, something can be done, that is to say, stop smoking instead of being worried about his own health, you can stop, remove the tooth, remove the pain.