Turning point. Ingvar Villido

it can and will be activated by triggers, occurring as an inner reaction, usually accompanied by a physical expression. Your reaction is nothing more than an activation of an acquired complex.

INGVAR VILLIDO

      For example, when you are in contact with a person with whom you have a conflict, then you see the activation of his /her inner reflexes, complexes. We see how people exchange subconscious processes with each other and trigger each other’s reactions. There’s nothing intelligent in these inner reactions, they are automatic activations, an autopilot.

      Recall a conflict that you have had. Observe it from a neutral position – can you recognize a set of reactions?

      The Fundamental mistake

      Example: let’s imagine two people, both represented with all of their reactions. Now, if a man behaves in some certain way or tells the woman something, it creates some sort of a reaction in her. Or vice versa, the woman does or says something, which in turn activates a counter reaction in the man.

      Have you noticed this?

      A typical and very fundamental mistake is to blame others in our own reactions, believe that they did this to me. To think that the other person caused your problem your reaction.. This approach that others are to blame for what surfaces in me, is very common.

      A typical and very fundamental mistake is to blame others in our own reactions, believe that the other person caused what surfaced in you.

INGVAR VILLIDO

      It is even considered a “normal” view to life. I claim this to be a fundamental mistake.

      Why is this a mistake?

      The mistake is exposed when we use logic: if it were not for the corresponding complex already existing within you, you would not react in that way in the first place. Without a given complex already in place, waiting to be activated, there is nothing to trigger. I remind that the corresponding complex has been learned and internalized during the course of your life. Although you may have forgotten that you learned this or that specific complex, once acquired they keep on being activated, producing reactions.

      As long as you consider others problematic, your main goal is to change them. But others are not the problem, all the complexes that make you suffer, are inside you. Recall from your own experience – have you been able to do that, to change anyone else? Also, do you notice when other people try to change you? Does any of it work? No. Of course not. But if it doesn’t work, why do you still try to do it?

      However, if you realize something by yourself and then decide to initiate change on your own behalf, your life changes. Am I right? You see, you are empowered to change your reactions, habits and mindset.

      If it were not for the corresponding reaction within you, you would not react in that way in the first place.

INGVAR VILLIDO

      CHAPTER TWO

      DISCOVERING THE ROOTS OF SUFFERING

      Automatic Reactions

      There are two main ways of learning: with and without intentional use of awareness.

      Learning without intentional use of awareness is a subconscious process; in this case automatic assimilation of data (into memory) dominates.

      Learning with intentional use of awareness can be further divided into two ways: – focusing only on objects or – focusing on objects plus being aware of the use of awareness itself, simultaneously.

      The second way can be called the intentional use of awareness. Intentional use of awareness is very different compared to all other ways of learning and significantly more effective. Complexes are “things” that you have learned subconsciously. Even now, reading these explanations, some of your complexes or may get triggered into reactions..

      Notice and observe for a moment – what occurs?

      Your reaction to these explanations comes from somewhere inside you. I do not create your reaction – I may only trigger them as somebody who provides information. The reactions within you are yours.

      Learning without intentional use of awareness is a subconscious process; in this case automatic assimilation of data dominates.

INGVAR VILLIDO

      The information that you get while reading or listening activates your subconscious complexes, the autopilot. On the surface this may create a mistaken perception that I created your reaction. When you introspect, you may discover, that this reaction was not a new thing, created for the first time, but rather a process of re-activation. The complex that got activated already existed within you. Basically it doesn’t make any difference, what kind of a reaction you have – whether it is a mental or an emotional one, positive or negative.