How to Talk to Absolutely Anyone
“Part of my role includes being an expert witness on large renewable energy projects, so I know how important communication and words are. In his book Mark makes insightful observations and strings these together in a unique, refreshing and totally life‐changing way. Perhaps the most powerful connection he makes is that our words and thoughts give rise to our feelings, and combining that with the effective strategies for conversation gives us a simply written, totally empowering and hugely inspiring book.”
“We live in a world where both in our personal and business lives electronic communication has become the norm. It has been said that many people are actually losing the skill of simply talking to people. In this book, Mark Rhodes, in his easy‐to‐read down‐to‐earth style, gives all of us a solid framework to maximize our effectiveness in starting conversations in any situation naturally. In doing so he ensures we will achieve the outcomes we want. Thoroughly recommended.”
“How to Talk to Absolutely Anyone goes way beyond the promise made in the title. An enlightening mixture of common sense and practical experience that is both extremely readable and implementable. Mark has brought to the book the same style that makes him such a great speaker at live events. The ideas for how to approach difficult conversations are a huge bonus, changing the focus to a win–win mindset.”
“In business, as in all walks of life, communication is vital whatever we are doing. Yet how often do we think about how to engage with others in the best way or how to enhance our skill set in this area? Mark, in his clear and engaging way, gives readers the opportunity to overcome their in‐built fears, practice and improve their skills and learn new ones. Personally, I have learnt a great deal from Mark and have valued reading this book.”
“This book shows you how to make your thinking work for you – not against you – so that you can talk successfully with anyone, anywhere. As has been said of Mark's previous book (on success) – keep it with you and read it over and over again!”
“I have seen so many intelligent people held back by their weak communication skills, their fear of ‘speaking to strangers’ in a business environment. It is one thing to tell them they are needlessly being held back; what this book does is detail the practical route to overcoming these fears and being a better communicator – a kind of ‘sat‐nav for stress‐free mingling’!”
“As the world's largest Business Networking organization we know that communication, and the ability to be able to build relationships, are absolutely crucial for business and personal success. Mark has been the headline speaker for a number of our conferences and now brings his knowledge and experience in the area of communication to everyone in How to Talk to Absolutely Anyone.”
“Whatever age, background or stage of life you are at, Mark's positive voice of experience connects with you to deliver a myriad of real‐life situations and solutions so you can develop the know‐how to get the best out of communication, and get the best out of life!”
How to Talk to Absolutely Anyone
Confident communication for work, life and relationships
SECOND EDITION
Mark Rhodes
© 2017 Mark Rhodes
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Names: Rhodes, Mark, 1966- author.
Title: How to talk to absolutely anyone: confident communication for work, life and relationships / Mark Rhodes.
Description: Chichester, West Sussex, United Kingdom: John Wiley and Sons, [2017] | Includes index. |
Identifiers: LCCN 2017020142 (print) | LCCN 2017029761 (ebook) | ISBN 9780857087485 (pdf) | ISBN 9780857087478 (epub) | ISBN 9780857087454 (pbk.)
Subjects: LCSH: Interpersonal communication. | Self-confidence. | Attitude (Psychology)
Classification: LCC HM1166 (ebook) | LCC HM1166 .R46 2017 (print) | DDC 155.2 – dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2017020142
Cover design adapted from the first edition design by Revert to Type; used with permission
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