WHAT CHARACTERIZES A RELATIONSHIP?
Merriam-Webster defines relationship as “the state of being related or interrelated.”8 Because we are talking specifically about relationships between businesses and their customers, it is important that we agree on a few of the elements that make up a genuine relationship. The most important issue for us to consider is how well our own definition of relationship helps companies compete successfully in the customer dimension. Rather than settle for a few words from a dictionary, let's list some of the distinct qualities that should characterize a relationship between an enterprise and a customer.
First, a relationship implies mutuality. In order for any state of affairs to be considered a relationship, both parties have to participate in it and be aware of its existence. This means that relationships will inherently be two-way in nature. This might seem like common sense. You can't have a relationship with someone if they don't have a relationship with you, right? It's a very important distinction for parsing out what does and doesn't constitute relationship-building activity with customers. Can a person have a genuine relationship with a brand? Well, it doesn't happen just because a customer likes the brand and buys it repeatedly. A customer can have a great deal of affection for a brand but, by our definition, a relationship between the customer and the brand can be said to exist only if the brand (i.e., the enterprise behind the brand) is also aware of the individual customer's existence, creating a new definition with an interesting new twist for the term brand awareness.
Second, relationships are driven by interaction. When two parties interact, they exchange information, and this information exchange is a central engine for building on the relationship. Information exchange, of course, also implies mutuality. But interactions don't have to take place by phone or in person or online. An interaction takes place when a customer buys a product. Every interaction increases the amount of information a company has about a particular relationship.
This point leads to the third characteristic of a relationship: It is iterative in nature. That is, mutual interactions between both parties build up a history over time to create a larger context. This increases a relationship's efficiency, because each new interaction is an iteration of all the previous ones. The more you communicate with any one person, the less you need to say the next time around to get your point across. One practical implication of this iterative nature of a customer relationship is that it generates a convenience benefit to the customer for continuing the relationship. Amazon remembers your book preferences, your address, and your credit card number, based on your previous interactions with it. To purchase your next book from Amazon, you only need to find it and click on it. If you've already bought enough books from Amazon, you might not even need to search for the next one; the company can do a pretty good job of finding it for you and putting it in your recommendations. The richer the context of any customer relationship, the more difficult it will be for the customer to recreate it elsewhere, and so the more loyal the customer is likely to be. (We find that Amazon recommends to each of us all of the new books we write—not surprising, since they're all very relevant!)
Another characteristic of a customer relationship is that it is driven by an ongoing benefit to both parties. Convenience is one type of benefit for customers, but it is not the only one. Participating in a relationship will involve a cost in money, time, or effort, and no customer will engage for long in any relationship if there is not enough continuing benefit to offset this cost. However, precisely because of the context of the relationship and its continuing benefit to both parties, each party in a relationship has an incentive to recover from mistakes. This is because the future value that each party expects from the continued relationship can easily outweigh the current cost of remedying an error or problem.
Characteristics of a Genuine Business Relationship
Mutual
Interactive
Iterative
Provides ongoing benefit to both parties
Requires a change in behavior for both parties
Unique
Requires—and produces—trust
Relationships will result in a change in behavior by both parties—the enterprise and the customer—in order to continue. After all, what drives the ongoing benefit of a relationship is not only its context—its history of interactions, developed over time—but also the fact that each party's current and future actions appropriately reflect that historical context. This is an important characteristic to note separately, because companies sometimes mistakenly believe that interactions with customers need only involve routine, outbound communications, delivered the same way to every customer. But unless the enterprise's actions toward a particular customer are somehow tailored to reflect that customer's own input, there will be no ongoing benefit for the customer, and as a result, the customer might not elect to continue the relationship.
Yet another characteristic of a relationship, so obvious it might not seem worth mentioning, is uniqueness. Every relationship is different. Relationships are constituted with individuals, not with populations. As a result, an enterprise that seeks to engage its customers in relationships must be prepared to participate in different interactions, remember different histories, and engage in different behaviors toward different customers. You will not have the same relationship with your waitperson at a restaurant as you do with your business mentor.
Finally, the ultimate requirement and product of a successful, continuing relationship is trust. Trust is a quality worth a book all by itself,9 but fundamentally what we are talking about is the commonsense proposition that if customers develop a relationship with an enterprise, they tend more and more to trust the enterprise to act in their own interest. Trust, and affection, and satisfaction are all related feelings on the part of a customer toward a company with which they have a relationship. They constitute the more emotional elements of a relationship, but for an enterprise to acknowledge and use these elements profitably, it must be able to reconcile its own culture and behavior with the requirement of generating and sustaining the trust of a customer. (For more on this issue, see Chapters 3 and 8.)
Over 20 years ago, business professors Jag Sheth and Atul Parvatiyar predicted that companies are “likely to undertake efforts to institutionalize the relationship with consumers—that is, to create a corporate bonding instead of a bonding between a frontline salesperson and consumer alone.”10
Customer orientation is powerful in theory but, some say, troubled in practice. In some industries, customer satisfaction rates in the United States fall, while complaints, boycotts, and other consumer discontent rise, fueled in magnitude and velocity by social media. Some say there has been a decline in the fundamentals of relationship building among enterprise executives who are more concerned with increasing quarterly profits for their own sake than establishing closer ties to profitable customers. Every aspect of managing customer relationships and experiences is affected by the firm's understanding of relationships in general. Enterprises must fully comprehend the basic foundations of relationships, and the basic principles of the Learning Relationship in particular, before embarking on a customer relationship or customer experience initiative.
Views on business relationships vary, but all provide a relevant perspective to building a relationship framework. We acknowledge that a company may attempt to build a relationship with a customer that the customer has no emotional interest in. By learning from a customer, or a small group of customers with similar needs and behaviors, the company may be able to offer the right