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Автор: Gus Lee
Издательство: John Wiley & Sons Limited
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isbn: 9781119848943
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My Fears Losing power Losing control Losing Not doing the right thing Core It's all about me or you will suffer I get my way or else I live on stress to get results Help others to be their best selves People are Things to abuse Things to control Good for making deals To be given Unconditional Positive Respect (UPR) Behaviors Cruelty, abuse, harassment, criminal acts Disrespects, bullies, acts selfishly, intimidates Nice to some, depends on mood UPR Method Fear, abuse, harm Fear, threats, pain Use, do deals Courageously inspire and lead The Self
SELF‐INTERESTED
OTHER‐INTERESTED

      Bella asked me, “But, Gustavo, isn't fear a great motivator?”

      “Yes, it is. But it's not a good one.”

      Here's an example. Let's say that your work team is asked to give inputs on the selection of a critical vendor. Your team leader might respond in one of the following ways depending on the Tier in which they operate.

       Tier 1: I always need more power and will die before I share it. People? They're just things to exploit, threaten, and harm. I'll go into rages and fire people who try to lead.

       Tier 2: I always have to control others and will seldom share my power. People are things; I use them to get what I want. I give in to anger, belittle, criticize, dispirit, depend on hand puppets, and demote those who try to be leaders.

       Tier 3: I try to know my stuff and survive by going with the majority and the flow. I do deals and favors to get results and look the other way when I see or hear Tier 1 and 2 actions.

       Tier 4: I always try to do the right thing and am miserable when I don't. I help others and don't complain when I'm disrespected. I promote warm, universal respect, forgiveness, and teamwork.

      This has a particular focus on how we relate to humans. In this consideration, as we'll later see, there is nearly universal agreement.

      I said that we can start using the Tier 4 Tool by asking: What are my fears in this situation?

      Gary fears that Aiden will sink a key project. Deep down, he fears he'll be seen as ineffective, which could harm his career. Bella's afraid of failing her patients, her staff, and her boss, and of losing her job. Deep down, she fears her children will go hungry.

      What do you fear?

      Our answers give us our first look at what we call the River of Fear. More on that later.

      We then ask ourselves four questions—one in each Tier.

      Tier 1: Malignant drive for power. What's the very worst reactive thing I could do? Attila the Hun might say: Destroy every human being in my path. The tyrannical individual does the worst things imaginable to exert power over others and get their way. It's fear controlling our lowest, most inferior, self‐serving, narcissistic hungers. Scarlett O'Hara, a slave‐owner with a Civil War–ruined plantation in Gone with The Wind, fiercely vows with a clenched fist, “I'm going to live through this, and when it's all over, I'll never be hungry again—no, nor any of my folks! If I have to lie, steal, cheat, or kill!” This is the Tier 1 manifesto and we see this in violent parents and criminals and cheating executives.

      In Tier 1, people say, “I'll crush anyone to get my way,” to include lawbreaking, sexual crimes and harassment, racism, extortion, discrimination, bribery, threats, fraud, theft, abuse, domestic violence, and murder. They then deny responsibility and take vengeance against those who don't cave in to their will. Tier 1 people reward a few blindly obedient people of similarly deficient character with money and position. When they punish, they are often brutal.

      Tier 1 social groups operate on fear and power. Spouses have little independence and children are commonly disrespected, tyrannically controlled, and abusively neglected.