This was of course against the very principle of respect in western communication. Tsanana still called me madam. African hierarchy rules were rather strict. She looked at me in wide-eyed horror when I told her to call me Bridget.
‘Oh madam, I cannot call Mma Bridget. Must have respect,” she told me.
She also refused to eat with me in the same room never mind at the same table. Instead she preferred to sit on the kitchen floor. The floor was admittedly very clean, but I still didn’t understand. Tsanana insisted that it simply was her custom. She had to show respect. As her employers, we were like her elders. That’s all there was to it. If anyone found out that she didn’t respect us, she’d be in trouble. I gave in reluctantly.
Communication with England was dragging. Apart from the phone calls, letters were my only lifeline to the outer world.
Despite a considerable delay, they kept me up to date with news from Cambridge.
That’s how I found out from Zaheeda that David had a new girlfriend. I knew Pippa and that she was nowhere near as stroppy as yours truly.
Good, David had found his match. No jealousy, not even a twinge of pain. Just a little homesickness. What I missed sorely by now were pubs and cinemas. And to my great shame I had to admit that I missed British television.
But the more I got into tune with my African surroundings, the less I thought about pub grub and the next episode of Coronation Street.
I wrote back diligently. About the birdsong in the mornings, Tony’s garden and the stony smell of the savannah. About Mrs. Poppelmeyer and how noisily Tswanas spoke to each other in the streets.
They wanted to know my as yet unsuccessful search for Claire. Just how was I supposed to explain the insurmountable obstacles piling up in front of me?
How naïve I had been. One couldn’t just take a bus or train. In Palapye was simply no infrastructure to speak of.
Bobonong was apparently close by. I wanted to go there. And from there to the Tuli Block. But even if I had a car, taking the tedious trip through rain and mud on my own was likely to be crowned by failure.
There were virtually no street signs, but many side roads. Tony’s Toyota was in the repair shop and I couldn’t even drive to the Botsalo to phone the Tuli Block game lodge. Tony didn’t have the time or inclination to accompany me there in a cramped minibus.
And what if the car broke down? One couldn’t ask direction with ‘Dumela mma’ .
Not even Claire had to drive through muddy roads and she had been on her way to the reservation. I was scared. The risk that I could lose my way was just too great. Again I had to wait.
Much to my parents’ relief, I reported that there were no gun battles or bomb blasts anywhere. The only guns I knew about hung over the shoulders of soldiers at roadblocks.
I missed Claire the most! She would have had some idea what to do. She would not have waited. I was already being as brave as I dared to be.
A small valley marked the boundary behind the housing complex. Because of all the high fences, one had to leave the complex and pick a narrow path back to a good spot in order to get an unobstructed view. I often day-dreamed that somewhere behind the hills, I would find Claire one day. Soon.
In the meantime we needed food and I had to walk to the shops. The long road from the training centre to the ‘mall’ was newly tarred, but took a wide berth around the village. Not a speck of shade from the blistering sun and the oily tar got stuck to shoes.
It was better to take the shortcut between trees and motsetsi-kraals. Even if it meant wading through deep grey sand. A trip I wouldn’t recommend barefoot. The sand was too hot and there were sharp objects hiding in it.
To my disappointment, Palapye did not have a traditional market place. The only thing that resembled a village hub was the short row of brick houses we called the mall. The Botsalo Hotel was far away, on the other side of the many kraals.
The only two shops were a greengrocer, where one could purchase mainly cabbage, spinach and squash and a little corner market that offered the mere basics. Bread, Crosse and Blackwell mayonnaise and long-life milk.
Next door was the local shebeen. A sort of pub, where one could eat a bite. Tswanas went to shebeens mostly for the sorghum beer.
Neo Moletsane had invited us proudly to try the local specialty of pap and fatty boiled meat with tomato relish.
We sat down at one of the wobbly tables covered in brightly patterned oil cloth. The food he ordered was served on tatty plastic plates with beetroot salad and none too clean knives and forks.
I was no fan of fatty meat and stuck to the pap and beetroot. I had to try hard not to spit out the unusual-tasting sorghum beer. Neo noticed how I was struggling and ordered a coke.
My shopping trip to the mall ended pleasantly when Alfred, who was on his lunch break gave me a ride back to the complex.
When the car was in running-order again, Tony took me to Serowe and Selebi Phikwe to stock up. There were real supermarkets! With fridges and one could buy fresh milk and produce.
“Finally,” I moaned. “I’m tired of tinned food.”
“That’s why we need cooler boxes. In the heat, lettuce can boil to mush in no time. Like cooked spinach.”
“Crummy. And instead of yoghurt we end up with cheese cake.”
“Exactly. Although that wouldn’t be so bad.”
“Claire loves cheesecake.”
“Mhm.”
That was all he said. Nice try, Bridget. How long would he carry on like this?
Tony wasn’t in a bad mood or anything , so after the shopping, we went to the Museum of Tswana Culture. The gate to the modest building was locked, despite a sign declaring that the museum would be open on a Saturday. Tony asked a few passersby, who spoke broken English and told us that the director of the museum lived around the corner. They offered to fetch him and soon he came running.
“I didn’t expect any tourists at this time of year,” the director apologized.
I began to like the flexibility of rules. In Britain, if a museum was closed, it was closed. End of story.
“Just look at that Tony, what is it?”
I was fascinated by the small wooden animal statues made by the Khoi San. A small wooden board with flattened nails that could be played with one’s thumbs lay on a pedestal.
“That’s a bushman piano,” explained the director, “all hand-carved by Bushmen from the Kalahari Desert.”
Bushmen. I had read about bushmen.
Still out of breath, the man took his position behind the counter and charged us two Pulas entrance fee per head. A group of Americans had also found their way to the museum and queued behind us.
“Awesome man. They have a museum in the middle of the desert, hey Bob?”
“Yeah, wonder if this statue’s for sale. I still need a birthday present for Meg.”
After viewing the exhibition of huts, cooking vessels made from clay and grass, the museum director told us everything there was to know about Tswana beer making. The Americans oohed and aahed and took lots of photographs.
“Beer - that’s my kinda thing, hey Bob?”
Next, we stopped for lunch at a cheerfully painted restaurant on Serowe’s dusty thoroughfare. The place was run by a sweaty Scotsman and his fat Tswana wife. We had a simple meal of hearty stew and samp, a mash of whole white maize kernels.
Surprisingly tasty.
We sat by a large window with the best view of Serowe.