Go there – I don't know where, Bring that – I don't know what
Anastassia Rumjantseva
© Anastassia Rumjantseva, 2020
ISBN 978-5-0051-6169-7
Created with Ridero smart publishing system
Greeting
Hello!
If you are going abroad for a permanent residence or have already moved, then the book is for you.
Here I will share my experience and knowledge. 10 years of life: 3 countries, 2 universities, 15 jobs, 20 places of living.
The book was written for similar test pilots like me. It doesn’t matter at what stage you are now: thoughts, packing, moving or the endless struggle of “good versus evil”.
It will help you to avoid many pitfalls and will save energy, time and money in pursuit of your dream.
Let’s go!
Intro
How did this book get published? Easily! The book itself was written quickly. Another thing that it was postponed for a long time.
There is an expression that “everyone wants to write the book that he would like to read himself”.
Exactly 10 years ago, I missed just such. Just before the decision was made on “Which planet should I fly to?”. If I’d read it by then, many rakes would have been safe and sound.
This is purely my experience. Each person has his own path. There is no single pair of people with the same destiny.
Before moving on to the main part, please do not mix “tourism” with “immigration”. I will be talking about the second one.
Thankfulness
I want to express my gratitude to all those who took part in my formation. To all the teachers of my Life who have contributed to my growth and development.
I want to pay special attention to my parents, who laid the cornerstone of this story.
There have been many suggestions for writing this book. My husband had the greatest influence on its implementation. Without him, this “chronicle” would have been lying in wait for its hour.
Before moving
Pros and cons of immigration
Let’s be honest. Let’s just call a spade a spade and tell the truth. If everything was great “at home”, no one would ever go anywhere. Maybe there would be a couple of dozen people who would decide to change the course of their life history, but not more than that.
If everything was so cool, maybe this book wouldn’t even exist? That’s right. Reality is reality, you cannot get away from it.
There are two types of motivation: “push” and “pull”. Either you are leaving because you are kindly drawn to another country, or because you are strongly “pushed out” of your home for a number of negative reasons.
Whatever the reason for your move, we are going to look at the pros and cons of immigration itself: “Why is it so awesome?” and “Why do you sometimes want to howl at the moon like a wolf?”
Pros:
• Increasing comfort: Most likely you will choose the country, the conditions of which will be better than in the one where you live now. The comfort level will increase dramatically.
• Self development: This is a serious chance for a sharp acceleration. At home greenhouse conditions, you would hardly develop so quickly.
• New food: Every day you can try something new and different.
• Another mentality: It is likely that it will be very close to yours. This can solve the issue of comfortable and favorable living at once.
• More opportunities: I think there is nothing to comment on.
• Climate: The one you like best.
• Better salary: No comments.
• Fulfillment of a dream: Maybe you have long dreamed of living, studying, working near the sea with palm trees.
• Calm atmosphere: The emotional background in the country is noticeable, so why not live in the one where it is more suitable?
• Satisfaction: Quiet joy as if this country was invented for you.
• Another lifestyle: A different work week schedule, different laws, other unspoken rules – all this is combined with your worldview.
• Population: The culture and population of the country is more conducive to achieving your goals and desires.
• Permissiveness: When there are more possibilities than what your country offers. The richer and more colorful the culture of the population, the wider the boundaries of what is permitted.
• Nature: Landscapes that delight every day.
• Safety: Both physical and psycho-emotional, mental and any other.
• Growing up: You quickly become independent. “Fairy Tales” and “Illusions” are over.
• Freedom: Freedom of thought, action, self-realization. Inner freedom. You’ve arrived, no one knows you, create yourself from the scratch, without labels and clichés on the topic of “what you can” and “where is your ceiling”.
• New experience and knowledge: Craving for new things becomes a lifestyle.
• All by yourself: When you are on your own, there is no one else to demand from. What you see is what you get. There is no one to blame on but yourself. You are your own boss. I see this as only a plus. Who else can you demand from so much as from yourself? Right. No one.
• Living YOUR life.
Cons:
• Decreased comfort: At first it won’t be “sweet”. There will be no such comfort that you are used to.
• Language barrier: If you don’t know the language, most doors will be closed.
• No familiar food: No matter how ridiculous it may seem, over the time you even begin to dream of some familiar food products.
• Another mentality: Sometimes you will fall into confusion, frustration and bewilderment, if not rage.
• Distance: In particular, if you have moved from a small town to a metropolis. Getting somewhere will take you hours of your time, both there and back.
• Climate: Unfavorable conditions for you.
• Separation from the family: You can no longer be 5-mins away from the door. Calls, e-mails, messages and long distance.
• Eternal race: In a new place you will have to plow to your full height in order not only to adapt, but also to succeed in something. This race never ends, because new faces are constantly coming and there will always be applicants for your piece of bread.
• Time failure: You think you are the same as when you left but did not notice in this bustle how time has passed, as well as how it has changed you. It’s the conflict between the past and the present. The people you used to know are not the same anymore. Familiar places are not so close to your heart as they used to be. In your dreams, you still see those sweet memories, as if nothing has ever changed.
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