So here we go again…coulda, shoulda, woulda. My question of the Curi Osity within me asks, “So what is stopping you from doing it?” What in the heck are you waiting for? Just do it! You will definitely feel a whole lot better and be a whole lot healthier and add years to your life.
Here is another real good example: “Ya know, if only I woulda learned how to budget my expenses when I was younger and had not fallen into the quicksand of credit card debt I coulda lived a really good life. I shoulda learned to develop good listening skills when others told me to stop using the credit card without budgeting my expenses. Had I done what they said I woulda really had a great life and been able to work to live and not live to work.
Hello! You need to get your life together NOW. Just do it! I know because I fell into financial quicksand myself and if you don’t make the commitment TODAY and follow through with a plan to reach your goal of becoming debt-free you will continue sinking deeper and deeper and never have the lifestyle you want. You will be a slave to credit card companies all your life while they will be the ones going on vacation off the high interest rates you are paying when in reality it should be YOU going on vacation. You owe it to yourself to do it. Start by seeking the expertise of a financial advisor. If you can’t afford a financial advisor consult in a friend of yours who has been there before. Once you make the commitment to take action and take the first step to financial freedom you will begin to feel great about yourself.
In essence what this whole chapter on coulda, shoulda, woulda boils down to is that you are never to old to pursue your dreams of what you want to do. Find out what you want out of life. If it’s losing weight then sit down with a nutritionist, a personal trainer, or if you can’t afford that then consult in a personal friend of yours who has lost weight and chart what you have to do to reach your goals and turn your dream into a reality. Find out what was successful for them. My personal feeling is that there is no quick fix to weight loss. You have to eat the right healthy nutrition combinations of food while maintaining an active daily exercise program.
What it all boils down to is that it is never too late to set a goal to accomplish anything you realistically want to achieve in life. Here’s how you do it and I will repeat this over and over again throughout the book because it really is crucial:
Don’t put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
Set your goals realistically on where you want to be or what you want to do.
You have to make the commitment and discipline yourself that you are going to go through with what you say and not have doubts about it.
Road map the steps you are going to have to take to get there.
Discipline yourself to taking that step day-by-day to reach your destination and walk the distance. Don’t ever stop short or you never will succeed.
Be persistent and when you fall down because of obstacles along the path (and you will fall down) then get back up on your feet and keep on walking.
Remember that even though the distance is a long walk if you take a step each and every day towards your goal it is inevitable that you will reach your destination and your visions of dreams will then become a reality.
If you can agree to and adhere to all of the above steps to accomplish your goal then you are on the right track to a new you and you will feel great about yourself once you make that decision.
Take a Look in the Mirror
As crazy as it may sound the most important thing that you could ever do for yourself is take a good look at yourself in the mirror at the start of the day and at the end of the day before you go to sleep.
Start the morning by taking a GOOD look at yourself and learn to love the person that you see. You have to admit if you can’t learn to love yourself then your life is in a heap of trouble. If you don’t like what you see then don’t complain. change it to what you want to see.
Have you ever really taken the time to stop and really look at yourself in the mirror? I mean take a REALLY good look at yourself? Before you read any further I want you to go to a mirror right now at this very moment and take a good look at yourself. Take a REALLY deep look at yourself. Just curious, do you like what you see? If not then make that change. You are unique and beautiful in your own way.
Love yourself, there will never ever be another you. You are totally unique. Take a look at yourself again and remember who you are and what you are is God’s gift to you. What you make of yourself is your gift to God as well as yourself. Take pride in yourself and know that we all make mistakes in life. No one and I mean no one is perfect. Take a good look at yourself and take pride in knowing that you are someone special. You have a lot to be thankful for.
As you look in the mirror in the morning and have learned to love who you are and what you are I want you to treat everyone in the course of the day the same way that you treat the person in the mirror. You will see that you will learn to love that person in the mirror more and more each passing day.
At the end of the day take a look again at that person in the mirror and tell them that you love them. Congratulations, you have just looked through your eyes of Curi Osity. The truth is if you learn to love yourself then you hold the world in the palm of your hands. Get some rest, tomorrow is a new day and an exciting whole new beginning.
The World as I See it Through The Eyes of Curi Osity
It’s amazing that everyday when you get up out of bed, turn on the news while you are having your morning cup of coffee that you are flooded with an array of news stories of violence. Another statistic, fighting going on over seas, innocent people and children killed in school shootings, suicides, hostage situations, celebrities and people getting divorced, people unemployed, domestic disputes, bullying, political in-differences within our world, protests, putting ourselves on a pedestal to the damnation of others, the list goes on and on. Rarely do we ever hear good news stories in our world.
Looking through my eyes of Curi Osity I ask the question, “Why do people retaliate the way they do?” Doesn’t everyone want to live a life of happiness? Everyday we see people in their daily lives having both minor and major differences at home and at work. You may even be experiencing them yourself. Once again searching to the answer to my question looking through the eyes of Curi Osity I found the simple but very true answer in a statement that my wife Cathy had said to me. Let me explain: I was sitting on the couch with Cathy the other night. I was talking to her and she was talking to me. Not knowing what I was doing I kept talking to her and cutting her off at times she was talking and the sad part of it is I kept her topic short as if I didn’t even hear what she had to say and was talking about what I wanted to say. I didn’t even realize what I was doing. Then the golden moment arrived when my wife had answered the question that I had been searching for. It was right before my eyes of Curi Osity. Cathy stopped me and said, “Larry, you need to work on your listening skills and hear what I too have to say.” She was absolutely right and after thinking about it answered my question of Curi Osity, “Why do we have augmentative in-differences and growing hatred in the world.” The answer was right there before me in what Cathy had said, “You need to work on your LISTENING skills and hear what I have to say.” The solution to the answer was simple, when communicating with other people, we need to empathetically listen and communicate as such through their eyes of Curi Osity. We are all unique and beautiful in our own way, but when we fail to listen and acknowledge the lives of others we create frustration. First and foremost we need to take the time and look in the mirror and get our lives straight and treat others like we treat that person in the mirror. Then we need to pay it forward, to listen to others and really take interest in hearing what they have to say. If they too have bad listening habits then in a nice way we need to give them a gentle nudge. By taking the time to empathetically look into the eyes of Curi Osity of other people and helping them to look into your eyes of Curi Osity and understanding and positively come to communicating and acknowledging each other’s viewpoint then we will all be on the same wavelength.