The more important issue in this case was obviously not the traditional views of her church, but rather that she should be allowed to express her love and support for her son and for his future bride.
I still believe in following your heart, for God often speaks through your conscience, but now I add the condition that the desires of your heart must also be in complete agreement with the written Word of God, the Holy Bible.
2 Timothy 3:16 "All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works."
HOW TO INTERPRET SCRIPTURE
In order to "rightly divide the word of truth" and separate it from the traditions and doctrines of men, you will have to know a little about how to properly interpret Scripture.
•Scripture must always be interpreted in context, so you should study the meaning of the preceding and the following verses as well.
•You should not try to establish or confirm a doctrine without the support of at least one other Scripture.
•Your interpretation must always agree with the original intent (called "exegesis") of the Scriptures
Most Bible scholars agree on these three basic principles, but they use different methods in developing their complex and varied doctrines on divorce and remarriage.
The first method that many theologians use is what I call, the "legalistic" approach. This is the use of the rules and principles of Scripture as inflexible law. This is the most common approach, and much better of the two, but often breaks down into "legalism" by adherence to the "letter of the law" rather than to the "spirit of the law".
The second method is what I call the "idealistic" approach. Since the continuation of a marriage is the ideal, those who use this approach claim that there is NEVER any justification for a divorce! It is from this approach that you get radical views, such as the breaking up of a second marriage because the couple are said to be continuously committing adultery!
My own theological approach, if any, may best be described as one of the heart, combined with my belief in a loving God and the inspiration and infallibility of the Holy Scriptures. I feel compassion for divorced people, who are caught in the middle of this theological debate, and I believe the truth of God's word is able to set them free!
I believe God also feels the same way, so I expect that all of my conclusions will be in full agreement with the Bible. As a matter of fact, if you do not continuously see God as a loving and compassionate Father, then you will miss the true intent of the Scriptures, and be just as much bound by legalism and self-righteousness as are some church theologians!
Even as I write this, I am aware that I am "stepping on the toes" of many theologians, who have spent hours of research and study. Nevertheless, I am determined to present this subject as clearly as I can, so that any lay person can understand it. He is the one, and not the theologian, whose life is drastically affected by the interpretation of Scripture.
This reminds me of a story. A circus star was about to cross the Niagara Falls on a tightrope while pushing a wheelbarrow. He asked the theologian, "Do you believe I can do it?" The theologian answered boldly, "Of course you can do it!" The circus star then replied, "Since you believe I can do it, I want you to ride in the wheelbarrow!"
While the questions of divorce and remarriage are theoretical issues to the theologian, they are extremely important life changing issues to the divorced or remarried person! I have therefore addressed this book primarily to the lay person who has been divorced, and not to the theologian.
EVEN THEOLOGIANS DISAGREE!
Lay people often assume that priests and ministers must know the answers to at least the basic questions concerning divorce and remarriage because most of them have been to a seminary or a Bible school. Yes, they are taught what answers to give you, but even the theologians in their own church do not agree among themselves on many of these issues.
Someone once said jokingly that if you could lay all of the theologians in the world on the ground end to end; they still would not be able to reach a conclusion!
And their complex and varied theories have now become so confusing and complex, that most lay people and local pastors just "give up" and accept the traditional views of their own particular denomination!
In 1937 the influence of the Roman Catholic traditions caused the Republic of Ireland to institute a constitutional ban on all divorce! This was strictly enforced for almost six decades before it was finally repealed in 1995. Even then, the influence of the Roman Catholic Church was so strong that it just barely passed with a very close vote of 50.2% to 49.8%.
And Protestant churches are not exempt from theological disagreements! A major Protestant denomination has been debating for decades whether or not to allow the ordination of divorced and remarried ministers. They recently voted against allowing their ordination by a vote of 60% to 40%. The majority voted the wrong way, but I want the reader to know that these and similar issues are still being debated today.
PASTORS HAVE TO OBEY CHURCH TRADITIONS!
The Roman Catholic Church is well known for its position that ultimate authority begins with the Pope and passes on down through the hierarchal structure. The local priest that you may have asked for advice would be at the very bottom of this hierarchy, so he has absolutely no authority at all to change any church doctrines or traditions.
Therefore, even if your local priest should have different views, it is not likely that he would tell you. If a priest disobeys the rules of his church, he could be transferred to a remote parish, defrocked as a priest, or in extreme cases he could even be excommunicated!
Martin Luther was an Augustinian monk who was later ordained as a priest on April 4, 1507. He never intended to start a new church or denomination. He only wanted to correct what he sincerely believed were erroneous traditions and doctrines in his church.
Among many other things, Luther objected to the traditional view that a person must always remain single after a divorce. Even though he had a doctorate degree from the University of Wittenberg, he was eventually excommunicated in 1521 when he continued to object to church traditions.
The threat of being excommunicated or transferred still exists today. One Roman Catholic priest personally confided to me about his concern that something like that might happen to him. He said to me, "What would I do? This is all I know. I don't have any job skills. How would I be able to make a living?"
If you belong to an Eastern or a Protestant church, don't think you have escaped from the influence of church traditions. The Eastern churches are almost as old as the Roman Catholic Church! And Protestant churches have not only passed down the traditions of their founders, but they have had almost five centuries to develop new ones!
The pastors of Eastern and Protestant churches are also threatened with the loss of ministerial credentials, and maybe even their churches, if they do not obey their church traditions! The loss of ministerial credentials, and possibly their church, are very serious threats to pastors. Even if they do not fully agree with their church traditions, most pastors will think twice before risking so much for a church member!
And even if a pastor should happen to be in full agreement with all of the traditions and doctrines of his church, he may not know very much about the issues of divorce and remarriage. It is just not possible for a local pastor to know, and to be theologically correct, on every single issue.
I am not suggesting that you should never seek advice or counsel from your church pastor. Seeking counsel is normally very wise. But if you do not pray and do your own study, you will never know how to "rightly divide the word of truth".
2 Timothy 2:15 "Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.”
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