You are probably not as bad as me. The doctor said I have three months. How much time do you have?
My world was suddenly upside down. Only yesterday the sky was perfectly clear. Something cruel, far beyond my control, had just robbed me of a future. I was still trying to wrap my brain around the horrific information that had bombarded me. One hour ago, there was so much to look forward to...now this.
The audacity! The pronouncement of my fate was spoken by someone I had just met. What right did that doctor have? My words were spent. There was no more energy for an argument. In my attempt to make the case that I was just fine, my emotional reserves were depleted. Somewhere deep within I knew the prognosis was established. Denial had to give way to reality.
Cindy dealt with the initial blow in her unique way. She believes the Bible, including the part that says a merry heart is like a medicine. The 20-minute drive home was probably not typical. My daughter instinctively reached for a new recording of a comedian, popped it in the machine, and cranked up the volume. That guy would make anybody laugh; even someone who had just been told she had three months to live! Cindy drove while we all laughed. A belly-laugh rolled out of me, like a rushing waterfall, and every other thought was drowned. It is proven that laughter produces endorphins that relieve stress and promote well being. Every one of those endorphins was put to good use that day.
When I got out of the car my legs felt weak. I could hardly stand. The ground seemed unsteady beneath me. Everything looked and felt surreal.
Surely, I would wake up and this nightmare would be over.
Mother, Suzanne, Nathan and little Rachel were waiting for us, holding a solemn vigil in the house. They made valiant attempts to be upbeat, but sadness, anguish, and unanswered questions were written on their faces. They were still reeling from the report they had heard on the telephone, only moments before we arrived. The atmosphere was charged with unfamiliar tension. For a brief moment, I wanted to bolt out the door. All eyes were fastened on me as I labored up the stairs.
If I could only get away from them, maybe it wouldn’t hurt so much. I am the cause of all this trouble. If I hadn’t gone to the doctor...things would be normal.
In spite of those fitful thoughts, an uncanny knowing dominated my senses. Mother’s pressure on me to call the doctor had probably saved my life. Even so, I was conflicted. It was Rachel’s first day of school. I was sorry that my health issues overshadowed this happy day for our first grandchild.
Would I be there to see her graduate…or go to the second grade?
The privilege of planning anything for the future was stripped away in one cruel moment. Life seemed so fragile...so unfair. “Three months” screamed in my head and made me hot with anger. Only yesterday, Levoy and I had exciting plans. We were booking services and making projections for the ministry. I had always considered myself a healthy woman. When I was sick, God healed me.
Would He heal me this time?
A killer cancer was stalking. This was very different from any other challenge Levoy and I had faced. I knew that the greatest test of my faith was upon me. I felt vulnerable, like an open target with no defense; one upon whom fate had turned its back. At the same time, I was confident that it would be okay. I knew that God could not fail.
More than anything, I wanted to be alone. I did not have a grip on the news I had received. I slipped into our bedroom and shut the door behind me. My emotions rode a roller coaster. I heard a scream. It was me! The pillow muffled the uncontrollable sobs and absorbed the tears. I could not block out the mocking of a strange hiss in my head.
“Three months…Three months…Three months.”
I was exhausted. I cried out to God, “Why me… why this…why now?” I wept until there were no more tears. My throat ached from screaming. I listened to my own uneven breath and stared into nothingness.
I sink in deep mire, where there is no standing: I am come into deep waters, where the floods overflow me. I am weary of my crying: my throat is dried: mine eyes fail while I wait for my God.
(Psalm 69:2-3 - KJV)
Out of nowhere, a strong feeling of guilt smothered me. Raw emotions washed over me like waves of acid. Crazy thoughts invaded my mind like an army.
I must be a bad person, or this would not have happened. It is my fault! I have probably eaten the wrong foods or exposed myself unknowingly to toxic materials.
I felt stupid and ashamed, but I didn’t understand why. After wallowing in a mire of self-pity and confusion, for what seemed like a very long time, I rebounded.
If I have only three months to live, I refuse to live them like this.
Sound thinking gradually returned. My resolve to get out of the pit of deprivation was powerful and I started moving. There was a Bible on my nightstand. It’s not my style to randomly pick a verse, but this was not a time for the norm. I flipped open the Bible on the bed and watched as the pages settled. My eyes fell instantly upon a verse I had read before. Now I saw it much differently...with my heart.
Uphold me according unto thy word that I may live: and not be ashamed of my hope.
(Psalm 119:116 - KJV)
That was it! The Lord would heal me. He would protect me from evil. Yes, He would prepare me for what was to come. I would surely live and not die!
Of all the thousands of verses that might have caught my eye, that was the one that jumped off the page. My mind was renewed. My spirit was quickened and I knew that I knew. It would be okay. In an instant, the diagnosis came face to face with the truth of God’s Word. It was the beginning of a miracle.
It was written in an old song, “Trouble is Thy servant that brings me to Thee.” Down through the ages, God has used the troubles of life to draw mankind to Himself. It is human nature to seek the Lord more earnestly when trouble comes along. I began drawing upon the reservoir of my faith, knowing that no matter what transpired God would use it to His glory and my good. At the same time, I was curious to know what God would do this time...with cancer.
No one understands the necessity of preparation better than a farmer. My Granddad bought acreage in South Dakota in the early 1950’s. The virgin land had never seen a plow. Preparing the grassy prairie for planting required a lot of hard work. Huge rocks that prevented tilling were dragged alongside the perimeter of the field, and the gaping holes left were tediously leveled. When the ground was finally ready, he pulled the big tractor onto the field. The aroma of fresh dirt, turning and yielding to the plow, quickened his senses. Precious seeds were sown into the ready soil. God sent the life-giving rain and welcome sunshine. In due season, Granddad gathered a bountiful harvest of golden grain. The fruit of his hard labor was at last a sweet reward.
Preparation creates a passage for the entrance of good things, but it is hard work and usually not a pretty part of the process. I was beginning to learn more about what it means to belong to the Master. When I received Christ as Savior, I gave him my heart. He has always known exactly what I need.
My obvious tragedy, cancer, was a tool in His skillful hands. He tenderly began the process of honing, shaping and molding me into a more pliable image. It hurt, and I did not understand. I was clay in the Master’s hand and the tool He used was painful.
The things God often uses might be a broken relationship, a tragic accident, overwhelming disappointment or a chronic illness. The hurtful events of life are often instruments in the hands of a merciful God, which draw humanity unto Himself. Cancer was indeed a sharp, cutting instrument.