Description: Newburyport, MA : Conari Press, an imprint of Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC, [2016] | Includes bibliographical references and index.
Identifiers: LCCN 2016006299 | ISBN 9781573246781 (5.5 x 8.5 tp : alk. paper)
Subjects: LCSH: Imagery (Psychology)--Therapeutic use. | Visualization—Therapeutic use. | Mind and body. | Memory. | Emotions.
Classification: LCC RC489.F35 S27 2016 | DDC 615.8/51—dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2016006299
Cover design by Mark Gelotte, www.markgelotte.com
Cover photograph © art4all/shutterstock
Interior illustrations by Mark Gelotte
Interior by Maureen Forys, Happenstance Type-O-Rama
Typeset in Warnock Pro and Karmina Sans
Printed in the United States of America
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This book is dedicated to the courageous and loving women upon whose shoulders I stand:
My mother, Imogene Scroggins Sandella, who married at age nineteen, finished college at fifty, and as a creative administrator into her sixties, saved our small-town hospital when most were failing. She taught me you're never too young or too old to make a difference. At eighty-seven, she continues to be a loving presence.
My paternal grandmother “Nona,” Filomena Torchia Sandella, who traveled solo from Paterno, Italy, to the United States at sixteen, married and birthed eleven children, raising the surviving seven in a house absent indoor plumbing. Unable to read or write, she inspires me as a living example of the commonsense wisdom in each of us, regardless of education and wealth.
The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for emotional, physical, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for well-being. The practices in this book are not intended for use by people with mental illness. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.
CONTENTS
Foreword by Jack Canfield, cocreator of Chicken Soup for the Soul® series
Step One: Flow & Go: Your Feelings Have a Natural Shelf Life
Step Two: See & Free: Your Feelings Have Form
Step Three: Unstick & Up-Wick: Your Intense Emotion + An Event = Stuck Memories
Step Four: Me & Thee: Your Wholeness Is Greater Than the Sum of Your Human Parts
Step Five: Repel & Attract: Your Feelings Are Magnetic
Step Six: Squeeze & Breeze: Your Feelings Increase with Resistance and Decrease with Embrace
Step Seven: Redo & Renew: What Is Real and What Is Imagined Reconsolidate as Your Emotional Memory
Bringing It All Together: Do It! Dip-See-Do
Simple and Speedy RIM Tools for Daily Life
Questions & Answers about RIM Regenerating Images in Memory
FOREWORD
Having spent time working as a schoolteacher, teacher trainer, psychotherapist, success coach, and human potential trainer, I have witnessed the immense influence that feelings have on a person's performance and mood. From the first time Deborah Sandella (“Dr. Deb” as her students call her) introduced me to her RIM work (RIM stands for “Regenerating Images in Memory”), I saw its powerful potential to create immediate and dramatic physical and behavioral changes in people. And I have continued to witness this time after time, year after year, as she and her facilitators work with my students.
Having known and worked with Deb for over eleven years, first as my student and later as my friend and coauthor, I'm delighted to introduce her new book to you. Every once in a while, you read a book that has a profound personal impact on you. This book will do that. It is written from the heart in a down-to-earth way that will touch you intimately—and probably change your life.
Deb's passion and pioneering spirit have led to her discoveries of how to help people more easily uncover that place within us that knows the answers to every one of our deepest questions. Her commitment to continually expand her understanding of the natural self-healing mechanisms operating in us has resulted in this wonderful and profound book.
Goodbye, Hurt and Pain will introduce you to seven powerful discoveries of how to master your feelings, and when you consistently apply