Other forms of emotional labor require that a person manage a wide range of feeling. The poor salesclerk working in an elite clothing boutique manages envy. The Wall Street stock-trader manages panic. The judge, as legal researcher Terry Maroney shows, is exposed to highly disturbing evidence of atrocities such as maiming, murder, dismemberment, and child rape. He or she must face the task of acknowledging and managing such feelings as horror, outrage, indignation, and pity, all the while maintaining the semblance of impartiality.4 Indeed, in leaders we admire, research shows, we seek signs of a capacity both to feel and to regulate those feelings—witness the contempt shown for politicians who weep or panic.5
Emotional labor can be hard to recognize. We can, for example, feel schadenfreude, or pleasure at the misfortune of others, a feeling we may be ashamed to have. And our shame can get in the way of the very act of acknowledging that feeling. That’s important because it is the pinch between a real but disapproved feeling on the one hand and an idealized one, on the other, that enables us to become aware of emotional labor. We may feel lonely at a joyous holiday party, relieved or indifferent at a funeral—and call on ourselves to correct our feelings. These kinds of pinches are of little consequence in certain cultures, and of great consequence in others, for cultures carry different feeling rules. “When I talked about emotional labor to Japanese people, they didn’t know what I was talking about,” Batja Mesquita, a psychologist at Leuven University in Belgium told me.6 The Japanese highly value the capacity to relate to the feelings and needs of others.7 So for the Japanese, emotional labor is more built in and therefore harder to see.
Cultural rules are seeing rules. And seeing is a matter of thinking about what we see. Based on our habits of thinking about emotion, we then recognize emotion in ourselves and others in an intricate variety of ways. Ironically, cultures which require the most emotional labor—and may be home to its most highly-trained practitioners—may also be those that inhibit the very recognition of it. Batja’s observation leads us to the broader question of how cultural rules inhibit or highlight the very ways we see and think about emotion. Many Japanese do recognize emotional labor, of course (The Managed Heart has been translated into Japanese, Chinese, and Korean). And the emotional labor a Japanese observer may see more keenly than her American counterpart might be that which it takes to uphold the belief in—and indeed fantasy of—the stand-alone individual.8
Tellingly, in the United States, the idea of emotional labor has been embraced by business advice gurus as an undiscovered resource and means of competitive advantage, and by labor unions as a cause of burnout, deserving of financial compensation. So where should we look to understand current trends in emotional labor? To the most powerful economic trends of our time, I believe: the profit-seeking drive for efficiency, the downsizing of public services, the growing gap between rich and poor, and globalization. Each of these trends fosters situations which call for emotional labor.
Speaking of modern American hospitals, one commentator observed, “Most hospitals used to be community-based and non-profit. Over the last three decades, the trend has been toward for-profits, but whether American hospitals are non-profit or for-profit, increasingly they are run according to business principles.”9 The Beth Israel Hospital in Boston provides one example. It was once a model of primary nursing care, but then merged with another hospital and restructured. Nurses formerly assigned to a particular group of patients were now assigned to “float” from unit to unit, depending on the number of beds filled on a given day. Staff was laid off. Stripped from the nurse’s role were tasks now defined as “menial”—positioning a post-surgical patient on a chair, feeding an elderly patient, or helping him to the bathroom. Such tasks were now assigned to untrained, lower-paid workers.
Along the way something else happened too. Encouraging a patient to eat, listening to a patient’s story, making a joke, patting an arm—such acts lost importance. They were absent from the medical charts. And these days, “if something isn’t on the charts,” as one observer noted, “it didn’t happen.” Emotional labor became invisible.
That didn’t mean nurses and aides didn’t continue to do it. They did, but from inside a care system in disrepair. As frontline workers, nurses and nurse’s aides now had to put a good face on emotion-deaf arrangements. Given fewer nurses to go around, they rushed. They skimped. They were prevented from giving their best. Some tried to detach themselves from the new scene while others managed a loss of pride. We could call this the emotion work of a broken care system.10
We can also follow out another trend—the growing gap between rich and poor. For the poor there is the story of doing without service or using inexpensive ones often associated with impersonality: dinner at McDonald’s, a birthday party at Chuck E. Cheese or the Holiday Inn Wedding Discount Special. But there is also a growing set of services which cater to the very wealthy: the high-end concierge doctor, the maître d’ of a fancy restaurant, the room service clerk at an elite hotel who remembers your name and favorite drink, the “experience managers” of the Club-Med vacation. Here the worker personalizes a service, honors the guest, and shields him from loneliness or shame.11
We can also follow emotional labor into Sri Lanka, the Philippines, India, Mexico, and elsewhere in the global South as its workers migrate to service jobs in the global North. We can, for example, explore emotional labor as it is connected through a globe-crossing chain of people caring for small children. We could start with the eldest daughter who cares for her younger siblings in a Philippine village while her mother travels to Manila to a weekday job as a nanny to a better-off family. How does the girl feel being the “little mother” of her siblings when others her age play? And her mother, apart weekdays from her own children, caring for the children of a better-off family, how does she feel? And the female employer of the Manila nanny, as is often the case today, may leave her children in the care of husband, mother, and nanny to migrate for years at a time to a job in Los Angeles caring for an American child. Such are the links in a global care chain, with different experiences of emotional labor at every link.12
Clients from the global North also travel to service providers in the global South. Many elderly Americans, for example, retire to Mexico. Japanese retire to Thailand and Swedes retire to Spain, sometimes falling sick and dying in the absence of family, in foreign locales. What emotional stories unfold between caregiver and cared-for? Among travelers in what’s now called “medical tourism,” American infertile couples who wish to have a child can travel to India—where surrogacy is legal, unregulated, and readily available for a tenth of what it would cost in the United States—and engage a surrogate mother to carry and give birth to their genetic child.13 In a visit to the Akanksha Clinic in Anand, India, I was able to talk to some poor Indian surrogates about how it felt to rent their wombs to foreigners. All of them badly needed and wanted the money, but each woman felt differently about her experience. One surrogate, the twenty-eight-year-old wife of a sidewalk vegetable vendor and mother of two children of her own, told me, “Madame-doctor tells us to think of our wombs as carriers, and I do that. But I try to keep from getting too attached to the baby I’m carrying. I remind myself of my own children.” Others tried “not to think about it.” Another woman bearing a child for a friendly Indian