Why is my approach successful? Because it helps people to access logic through what I call their emotional brain. Too many methods and books counsel change through logic and facts. But people aren’t stupid. They get the reasoning behind change. They know that to lose weight you just have to eat less. And to get fit you just need to go to the gym daily. And to make money, you just need to make a lot of sales calls and follow through on the feedback you get until you hit the jackpot. However, as my book shows, the limits that people put on themselves to follow through on this kind of logic and knowledge must be dealt with first. And how is that done? By developing and attaching strong, productive emotions – supercharged emotions – to understanding and decision-making.
But who helped me to reach the outcome I desired – to publish this book? I would like to thank Theresa Dugwell, publisher of Genesis Publishing at BPS Books, for this and so much more. She was a recognized world champion as a runner before I met her, but through this project she became a champion for me on a personal level. When I shared my desire with her to reach a larger number of people with my seven keys, she picked up the baton and crossed the finish line, making my desire a reality.
Speaking of personal support, I would like to thank my dear parents, who have been there for me in every way possible from the moment I was born to this very day. May they continue in good health to reap the rewards of their hard work for many happy years to come. My thanks also to my siblings, who have been and continue to be an indescribably valuable source of support and inspiration that I can’t imagine my life without.
Kudos to my dear children, who are G-d’s most amazing and greatest gift. They make every day something to truly look forward to.
And last but not least, my heartfelt gratitude and deepest appreciation to my dear wife, because what I have achieved is all hers. She is my life partner. She has done more than her share in every way, and has created the perfect environment for me to thrive, and for that I am eternally indebted.
I look forward to meeting you, my readers, some day and hearing how you have supercharged your emotions to win.
BENJAMIN HALPERN, LCSW
INTRODUCTION
IF you felt unstoppable, would you approach a sales call differently? If you felt extremely confident, would you perform better in a business meeting? If you were in a very passionate state, would you make a better sales presentation? Chances are the answer to all these questions is a resounding YES!
Imagine that you just won a lottery. You would be extremely happy. But where would your lottery-winning feelings come from? If you’ve never won the lottery before, how would you know how to act and feel?
The answer is that many feelings are already in you, and have been from your youngest days. The challenge is to access the empowering and positive ones. Wouldn’t it be useful if you could access them at will? To feel the supercharged emotions that are already inside you on a regular basis so you can win in your life?
When you’re supercharged – when you live in an empowered emotional state – you can attain your dreams in every area of your life. You’re then set up to win financially, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually – and in your relationships, too. Remember times in your life when you were just “on” and you just made things happen? Where did the supercharged emotions come from? From right inside you, of course!
And that is where this book comes in.
Supercharge Your Emotions teaches you the seven keys you must know to get the emotional leverage you need for success in every area of your life.
The keys are:
1 Clarify Your Outcome
2 Recognize What’s in Your Control
3 Magnetize Your Thoughts and Actions
4 Manage Your Emotions
5 Set and Attain Your Goals
6 Access the Power of Belief
7 Maintain Your Power
KEY 1
CLARIFY YOUR OUTCOME
THE EMOTIONAL BRAIN
DOES it bother you that, despite your extensive knowledge of what you need to do and feel to win – gained from several books on the topic, online research, or even training sessions that you have attended – you still haven’t reached the place where you want to be?
The answer is that logic and knowledge have very little to do with breaking through limitations. In fact, buying books and trying to understand the logic of what it takes to overcome your limitations and where you’re going wrong is part of the problem. Your thinking patterns are a big reason that you don’t get the outcomes you desire.
Logic has very little to do with bringing about change to your emotional brain. The emotional brain and the logical brain operate by two different sets of rules. Understanding and working with the logical brain won’t give you control of the emotional part of your brain. When it comes to being able to master your limitations, it’s the emotional part that you need to learn to manage.
Let me give you an analogy so you can appreciate and understand the difference between the two parts of your brain.
Think of road plates, those strong and solid sheets of metal, about five feet wide by ten feet long, that construction crews use to cover openings in the road. They are so strong, cars can drive over them safely.
Now, if I were to put one of them on a sidewalk, most people wouldn’t hesitate to walk on it, because, safety-wise, it’s the equivalent of a regular sidewalk. But what if I were to just change one variable? What if I placed the road plate outside the eightieth floor of the Empire State Building and across to the building on the other side of the street and asked you to walk across?
If you’re like most people, you would balk at the very idea. If I were to ask you why, you most likely would say, “Because it’s dangerous.”
Let’s say I then introduced logic to explain why it’s totally safe, telling you, “This road plate was put in place by the same engineering team that built the famed Verrazano Bridge, and they have confirmed that it is equally as safe.”
If I asked you whether you would stand on it now, what would you say? Chances are your answer would still be a resounding no.
You might say, “Maybe the weather’s going to be windy.”
I might respond by saying, “What if the entire team of meteorologists from radio station WCBS 880 vouched that the weather was totally fine and there wasn’t going to be any wind? Would you walk on it then?”
“I’m not feeling well,” you might say. “I couldn’t possibly try it.”
If I brought a team of doctors in to attest that you were perfectly healthy, would that do the trick? Not likely.
Logically, I showed you that walking on the plate eighty floors up is as safe as walking on it on the sidewalk below. But the reason logic has no sway over you is that you are accessing something a lot deeper than logic – your imagination.
You would look down at the road plate sticking out of the eightieth floor and down at the scene below, and ask, “What are those little rectangles moving around?”
And I would answer, “Those are buses.”
“And what are those smaller rectangles?”
“Oh,