I think Victoria and I were so happy to have found each other that we wouldn’t have minded telling complete strangers about it. That’s how it is, being in love: you want the rest of the world to know about it. But our relationship was this big secret. Simon Fuller wanted it that way and I think Victoria understood why, early on at least. Who was I to argue? To be honest, all the ducking and diving, sneaking around and keeping ourselves out of sight, was exciting in a way as well. There was one night when Victoria was in Manchester for a Spice Girls concert. United had a party that same evening to celebrate winning the Premiership. Victoria had travelled up the night before and come to stay with me at the house in Worsley. We arranged that I would try and get to the hotel where she was staying after the club function wound down. All the Girls were around. She couldn’t really have disappeared off to North Manchester after her gig.
I left our party around one in the morning, so it was already late. Victoria was staying at the Midland Hotel and I took a cab across town, and rang on the way to let her know I was coming. I was wearing this mac, probably looking like a character in a detective movie, and, sticking to the part, I sneaked into the hotel and up the back stairs to the leading lady’s room. Victoria answered the door, half asleep, and then I kept her up half the night talking. At one point, very early the next morning, someone knocked at the door. I dashed into the bathroom to hide: well, I’d seen that particular move in plenty of films too. I crept out of the Midland the same way I’d crept in, and hailed a cab to take me back to Worsley. It wasn’t until we were on our way that I realised all I had on me was a pocket full of loose change. I had to watch the meter and got out about 200 yards from my front door, which was as far as my money would take me.
I’d never felt this way about anyone before. As soon as I met Victoria, I knew I wanted to marry her, to have children, to be together always. I could have said it to her on that first date, as we drove round the M25 in her MG. I was that sure that quickly. After we first met, Victoria and I spent a lot of time apart: she was on tour, I was in the middle of an amazing season with United. We got used to each other, found out about one another and learned to trust each other during those four-hour telephone conversations. I’m not the world’s best talker, not at least until I know someone well. Maybe being on opposite sides of the world wasn’t the worst thing for us in those early days. When we had our chances to be together, it seemed like we’d already grown close very quickly. And for all that I was shy and would sometimes get a bit embarrassed in company, when it came to telling Victoria how I was feeling, I couldn’t let nerves stop me saying what I needed to. I remember us lying side by side at her mum and dad’s house one evening. It was the simplest, most beautiful conversation two people can ever have with each other:
‘I think I’m in love with you, Victoria.’
‘I think I’m in love with you, too.’
Keeping it all to ourselves wasn’t exactly my choice but I respected the way things had to be for Victoria. I’d stepped into Spiceworld and understood how important the Girls and their management team felt it was to keep everything under control. I didn’t talk to anyone about what was happening between us. My parents were aware something was going on but, at United, I wasn’t going to be a lad who came into the dressing room one morning boasting that he was going out with a pop star. That wasn’t me. I remember turning up for training one Monday after a lovely weekend with Victoria and Ben Thornley asking me why I was in such a good mood.
‘I’ve met this lovely girl.’
‘Who?’
‘Oh, just this lovely girl who lives down in London.’
Rumours started anyway. I suppose that was bound to happen. And rumours are something we’ve lived with ever since. It wasn’t long after our relationship became public that Victoria was getting phone calls to say the papers had pictures of me kissing another girl in my car. Those kinds of stories – completely untrue – still turn up now and again. Of course, proving something’s not true is a lot harder than proving it is. We’ve got used to rumours, though, and how and why they happen. We had to almost from the start. Victoria and I trusted each other then, just as we do now. If you’re with someone you love, you know anyway, deep down, what’s real and what isn’t.
With all the gossip doing the rounds, it got to the point where I had half a dozen photographers camped outside my house in Worsley every day, just waiting for Victoria to turn up. I’d never experienced anything like this before, whereas Victoria had, of course. I think she made the decision, really. She phoned to say she was coming up to see me and that she was happy enough to stop all the secrecy. We knew what we meant to each other, didn’t we? It was better that we decided where and when the public found out for sure that we were together. People imagine ours has been a glitzy, showbiz romance. Just remember: the first photos of us together were taken when we were walking down my road to go to the newsagents on the corner.
Once the story was out officially, I couldn’t believe the fuss: flashbulbs popping everywhere we went, stories all over the papers almost every day and everyone having an opinion on us and our lives. I think the attention was as intense as it was because of Victoria; after all, the Spice Girls were making headlines every time they blinked in those days. If I’m honest, all that side of it made being with Victoria even more exciting. It was a daily reminder of just how good she was at what she did. I loved the whole package: her looks, her personality, her energy. Those legs. But I was really turned on, too, by her talent and the recognition in the public eye that came her way because of it. I knew I wasn’t the only person out there who thought she was a star.
I realised what was going to happen. I think Victoria did, too. Before long, we’d started talking about getting engaged. I’d even asked her what sort of ring she might like and, being a woman with a pretty clear idea about her taste in things, Victoria had talked straight away about a particular shape of diamond, the stone longer and thinner at one end than the other, almost like the sail on a boat. She was busy with the Spice Girls, and so we didn’t settle anything at first, but about six months after we’d begun seeing each other, I arranged a weekend away at a lovely old hotel in Cheshire. It was just down the M6 from Manchester and we checked in early one evening after a United home game.
Somehow I knew this was the right time. A week later, Victoria and the Girls would be off on tour; it would be a year before they were back in England for more than a few days at a time. We had a bedroom overlooking a lake and the fields beyond. It was August, so we had dinner in the room while the sun set in the distance. We were both wearing towelling robes, which wasn’t exactly the obvious costume for the drama but, after we’d eaten, Victoria sat on the bed and I got down on one knee in front of her and asked her to marry me. I’d always wanted to marry and to have children and now I’d found the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Lucky for me, that night in Cheshire, the woman said yes. For all that I’d hoped she would, it’s difficult to describe the thrill for me when she said that word. It was like an electric charge running up my spine.
I really believe in the traditional way of doing these things, which meant that proposing to Victoria was the easy bit. I had a pretty good idea that she felt the same way as I did. The really hard part was asking Victoria’s dad for his daughter’s hand in marriage. I was nervous before I took the penalty against Argentina at the 2002 World Cup but, for tension, building myself up to ask Tony the big question wasn’t too far off. I knew I had to do it. I just didn’t know how or where or when. We were at their house in Goff’s Oak and no-one was giving me an inch. When I asked Jackie if she’d get Tony to come and talk to me, she wasn’t having any of it:
‘No, David. You have to do it yourself.’
I eventually cornered the prospective father-in-law in the prospective brother-in-law’s old room. I’d asked Tony if we could have a quick word in private and we trudged up the stairs together, me feeling like I was off to an execution. I walked into Christian’s old bedroom and tripped on the leg of the bed and stubbed my toe. At least Tony was behind me and so he didn’t see it happen. I looked at him. He looked at me.