Me: How does this even work?
Thom: [through the door] Haven’t you ever watched TV? Piss on the stick, then we can find out who the father is later.
Me: Please.
Thom: [quiet] Sorry, Kiki. Pass the instructions under the door.
Me: [hands shaking, takes several goes]
Thom: OK. It’s the bit on the end. Then stick the lid back on and leave it three minutes. Do you want me to come in?
Me: Come in? In here? I don’t really know. I don’t know. I don’t know.
Thom: It’s OK, Keeks. I’m right here. We can do this later if you want. We don’t have to do it right now. We can talk about it first, if you want.
And just for a moment, I thought: ‘we’? We? If a little plus sign appeared in this window, it wouldn’t be Thom squandering his recent promotion. It wouldn’t be Thom who was the only one of his friends changing his name to ‘Mummy’. It wouldn’t be Thom pushing a large ham-weight through his tiny little birth canal. We? Me me me me me. Then I thought: oh, fuck it. Just take the test.
So I did.
I was still shaking, so managed to wee all over my own hands, but I clicked the cap back on and let it sit. I opened the bathroom door, and Thom rushed in.
Thom: How are you doing?
Me: You’re holding the hand that’s covered in my urine.
Thom: I’m going to take that as a ‘good’.
He hugged me for a long time, not even commenting on how much the bathroom now stank, then we went over together to check the result. A giant glowing plus sign greeted us.
Me: Well.
Thom: That’s unambiguous.
Me: Best of three?
Thom: It was a two-pack. I don’t think you’ll need me to go out again.
Me: Oh. Shit?
Thom took me into the living room, where we sat for ages in silence.
Thom: But … when?
Me: Our honeymoon.
Thom: How?
Me: Remember that night? We’d been walking under the Eiffel Tower? And we agreed to start trying because it could take years? The night before we sobered up and realised our mistake. That one.
Thom: Wow. Honeymoon baby.
Me: [breaking down sobbing] It’s so taaa-aa-aa- ack-y-y-y-y.
I cried for half an hour, then calmed down into a state of steady shock. Pregnant. I’m pregnant. As if reading my mind, Thom said in a ridiculous over-the-top voice, ‘I can’t believe we’re pregnant already!’ which managed to get a laugh out of me; it’s an all-time Worst Phrase, and my laugh stuck around until I remembered that it was, at least in one sense, true. My catatonic state returned.
Me: How did this happen?
Thom: Oh Keeks. When a man and a woman love one another very much –
Me: Thom, please! Really!
Thom: I don’t know, Kiki, these things sometimes happen, don’t they? I do love you very much, if that helps.
Me: I just don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to do. [whispering] This is ridiculous.
Thom: Shall we go to bed? Sometimes these things feel better in the morning.
Me: [staring at him]
Thom: Sorry, I don’t mean it like that. I know it’s not going to go away, and I know that no matter how much I say I love you and I support you and I feel for you, I know that it’s your body and I can only begin to imagine your panic and your fear. But I do love you, and loving you also involves knowing that sometimes you deal best with things by vanishing in a cocoon of sleep to work out what you have to do. Is that true?
Me: Yes.
Thom: Right. So let’s do one decision at a time. Would you like me to make you a drink before bed?
Me: Whisky.
Thom: Uh …
Me: OH GOD I CAN’T EVEN DRINK. Oh God! How much have I drunk in the last month? The last two months? OH GOD I DO NOTHING BUT DRINK.
Thom: Kiki. It’s fine. Let’s forget about the drink and just get into bed.
So we did just that. I amazed myself by falling straight to sleep – as Thom said, it’s how I cope with most things, but it meant it was an extra struggle this morning, having a mini version of the click-clunking remembering all over again. Pregnant. Pregnant. Pregnant. It still doesn’t make any sense. Yes, we both want kids very much, and yes, we look forward to having them, but now? Right now? I have just got my promotion, Thom has just started a mind-bogglingly poorly paid job, and we’re not ready for this. I feel so strange.
At work today, Alice noticed something was wrong, but only asked me once. She kept her distance for the rest of the day in the nicest possible manner, her excellent breeding (or lesbian superpower) knowing exactly when to press me and lavish me with attention, and when to leave me in peace. Alice, my best friend in the office, is head of Publicity here at Polka Dot Books and a far nicer, better and more capable person than the company deserves. Since Tony began his ridiculous absence, his mother Pamela (who also happens to be the founder of Polka Dot and its major shareholder) has tried to keep out of the office most of the time, wanting to believe her son knows what he’s doing. But we can all tell she’s worried the company will go down, even with people like Alice working here. Thankfully, this not being one of Pamela’s rare visiting days, I managed to get my head down and do work for most of the day; at lunchtime I had to get out of the office, so took my sandwich round the corner to window shop, and found myself in front of the giant Topshop on Oxford Street, facing the maternity wear entrance.
They had some lovely clothes. Gorgeous slim-fitting jeans with fatty pregna-panels in the sides, fabulous tops to show off pregna-busts and delicious high-waisted dresses. Not to mention the mini-me baby clothes: t-shirts and sweaters with the wildlife of the season embroidered on the front, so the infant can be just as sharp as the mother. Could I live like this? Is there hope? I started walking back to the office feeling better, feeling hopeful. Maybe we could do this. It’s not the seventies anymore: I wouldn’t have to wear huge frilly tents and give up my job. I could be like Rachida Dati, returning to work at the French government five days after having this baby. Only, not the French government. And not five days. Women do this all over the world, all the time. And this wouldn’t just be my baby. It would be Thom’s as well. And who’s going to make a better baby than me and Thom?
So I went to the beautiful stationery shop below our office and bought this diary. I had a sudden urge to keep a record of everything, all our decisions and mistakes and joys. It felt like the first good step in a long road ahead. But I felt good.
Then I left the shop and almost tripped over a woman screaming at her child.
Woman: Didn’t I tell you, Nicholas? Didn’t I say no?
Boy: [incoherent screaming]
Woman: No,