CYNTHIA CAVANAUGH
Speaker and award-winning author of Anchored: Leading Through the Storm
FRESH JOY:
FINDING JOY IN THE MIDST OF LOSS, HARDSHIP AND SUFFERING
Copyright ©2020 Heidi McLaughlin
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ISBN 978-1-988928-34-0 Soft Cover
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Edited by Marina Hofman Willard
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Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication
Title: Fresh joy: finding joy in the midst of loss, hardship and suffering / by Heidi McLaughlin.
Names: McLaughlin, Heidi, author.
Identifiers: Canadiana 20200300210 | ISBN 9781988928340 (softcover)
Subjects: LCSH: Joy—Religious aspects—Christianity. | LCSH: Joy. | LCSH: Grief—Religious aspects— Christianity. | LCSH: Grief.
Classification: LCC BV4647.J68 M35 2020 | DDC 248.4—dc23
Heidi uses her passion and gifts of speaking and writing in her ministry called “Heart Connections.” You can contact her through her web page:
www.heartconnection.ca or write to her at:
Heidi McLaughlin
1529 Chardonnay Place
West Kelowna, British Columbia
V4T 2P9 Canada
To my beloved birth children
Michelle and Donovan
Through all our sorrow and uncertainties, you’ve been my constant thread of joy.
CONTENTS
The Groundwork
ONE: SUPERPOWER OF THANKFULNESS
5,000 Gifts
A Window into Heaven
Reframing the “If Onlys”
FOUR: JOY GIVERS AND JOY BUSTERS
Six Traps of a Solitary Life
My Silver Ladder
The Land Between
Getting Unstuck
EIGHT: JOY WHEN WE KNOW WHO WE ARE
A Lesson from My Putter
Learning to Live Alone
TEN: JOY AND BEAUTY OF LIVING WATER
Pitiful or Powerful
Learning to Fly Upside Down
Hearing God’s Voice
FOREWORD
“I’d love a cup of coffee. Would you like one?” The words slipped from my mouth before I could retract them.
Coffee is my love language. The smell of it brings a smile to my lips and makes my heart happy. It’s how I communicate with my people, and Heidi is one of my people. We’ve laughed and cried our way through many of life’s ups and downs, but nothing was as earth-shattering as the unexpected death of her second husband, Jack.
I can still recall the message I received from Heidi asking for prayer after Jack collapsed in their kitchen while going for a coffee. And the prayers that followed when it became apparent he would not recover. Heidi’s normal changed forever before the first cup was brewed, an experience that made each cup thereafter a painful memory. I could understand her decision to avoid drinking it after all she had experienced.
For most of my life, I have believed that the goal is to run from pain. I reasoned that if I could avoid grief and disappointment, I would be in a perpetual state of joy. I now know I was wrong. Over the past three years, I’ve watched Heidi navigate a journey