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ISBN: 978-1-937832-92-6
Mickey Connolly
To Fairy Tana, wife, partner and guide, for her fierce devotion to living an honorable life and to Emma Rose and Guy, our extraordinary, inspiring children.
Jim Motroni
To my wife, Debra and my children, Dylan and Ava, who have contributed immeasurably to my vitality, my growth and my life…and tolerated my failure to always return their generosity in kind.
Richard McDonald
To my wife, Amy, thank you for being a confidant and an inspiration to live life with greater presence and heart wide open. I am forever grateful.
Contents
Dedication
Foreword
Author’s Note
The Vitality Imperative: It starts with a Choice
Presence:
Presence Principle #1: Presence is rational, emotional, and physical
Presence Principle #2: The first act of leadership is presence
Presence Principle #3: All improvement begins with what is present
Presence Principle #4: Presence improves performance
Presence Principle #5: Presence improves with practice
Presence Practice #1: Physical awareness
Presence Practice #2: Emotional awareness
Presence Practice #3: Rational awareness
Empathy:
Empathy Principle #1: The test for listening is learning
Empathy Principle #2: Where you get resistance, do research
Empathy Principle #3: Beware the four empathy killers
Empathy Practice #1: An appreciation audit
Empathy Practice #2: A curiosity challenge
Empathy Practice #3: A resistance audit
Purpose:
Purpose Principle #1: Separate purpose from methods and measurable goals
Purpose Principle #2: Purpose is what you are for, and worries are what you are against
Purpose Principle #3: Align people to purpose
Purpose Principle #4: Make purpose the boss
Purpose Principle #5: Keep purpose alive
Purpose Practice #1: A purpose-method-goal audit
Purpose Practice #2: Discovering collective purpose
Purpose Practice #3: Recovering purpose with glad-sad-mad
Authenticity:
Authenticity Principle #1: Truth accelerates success and fear decelerates truth
Authenticity Principle #2: The speed of opinion is faster than the speed of understanding
Authenticity Principle #3: Accurate inquiry arouses creativity, storytelling, and action
Authenticity Principle #4: Be true to purpose and true to self
Authenticity Principle #5: Raise issues at Point Easy
Authenticity Practice #1: Chart a conversation
Authenticity Practice #2: From self-deceived to self-aware
Authenticity Practice #3: The Giraffe Award
Wonder: