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Автор: Greg Gilhooly
Издательство: Ingram
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isbn: 9781771642460
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      To all who have suffered:

      You are not alone, you will be heard, and you will be understood.

       Grief fills the room up of my absent child,

       Lies in his bed, walks up and down with me,

       Puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words,

       Remembers me of all his gracious parts,

       Stuffs out his vacant garments with his form;

       Then, have I reason to be fond of grief?

       Fare you well: had you such a loss as I,

       I could give better comfort than you do.

       I will not keep this form upon my head,

       When there is such disorder in my wit.

      —King John (Act III, Scene IV), William Shakespeare

       CONTENTS

       A Call to Action

       Prologue: I Am Nobody

       Chapter One: Just a Boy

       Chapter Two: The Predator

       Chapter Three: Attacked

       Chapter Four: Trapped

       Chapter Five: Escape to Princeton

       Chapter Six: This Is the Law

       Chapter Seven: Corporate Life

       Chapter Eight: Choosing to Live

       Chapter Nine: Coming Forward

       Chapter Ten: Justice for None

       Chapter Eleven: Recovery

       Chapter Twelve: Moving the Law Forward

       Epilogue: Alive and Kicking

       Postscript

       Acknowledgments

       About the Author

       A CALL TO ACTION

      IF YOU HAVE been sexually abused, fight on, no matter how dark things may seem, no matter how difficult your situation may be, because you can come through and survive your battle and live a good, meaningful life. Reach out to others and let their goodness shine upon you and help carry you along your journey to inner peace, wherever that may lead you.

      If you haven’t been abused, please give freely of your love and support to those who have been abused, for we need you and your help more than you can ever know.

      But if you have sexually abused another, pay your debt to society and get all the help you need to ensure that it will never, ever happen again—for it can never, ever happen again. Accept responsibility for what you have done, no matter how unfair it may seem to you, and accept all of the consequences you may have to endure because of your actions, all of the restrictions you will face in your future. Respect your victims. Do not make excuses. Do not in any way minimize the impact ‑of what you have done to your victims. Do not try to pretend that there was any good you may have done along the way that could in any way offset even part of the bad that you have done. Failing that, go to hell.

      PROLOGUE

       I AM NOBODY

      I’M STANDING IN the parking lot of a local community hockey arena. The rink—plain, rectangular, designed like an industrial warehouse—could be anywhere. It’s a cool, still, gray day in the middle of a Canadian winter, snow gently falling, the type of day where every kid should be outside skating and playing, living life to its fullest. It makes me think back to all the hours we spent playing hockey outside, how good it felt to skate with the wind at our backs, how brutally awful it was to have to turn around and skate back into it. In an instant I am again feeling that cold air biting through my equipment, I am remembering how it felt to freeze into my own sweat. For a moment it’s real, and I want to fall back into it, I want to give myself completely over to the memory of the sound of our skates squeaking as we stood and rocked back and forth in the intense cold, listening while our coaches set out the next drill. I want to be that kid again, getting ready for the next drill while sniffling back a runny nose in the thick fog of our heavy breathing, all of us needing to start moving again to generate some body heat. I can even smell the hot chocolate that was always served to us when we were very young and came inside after our battle with the elements, the true victors being those who could get their skates off quickest and be the first to grab the hot water bottles to warm their frozen feet.

      But I’m not a kid anymore, and the game left me with other memories, too.

      I enter the arena. I see people milling about, kids dragging equipment bags bigger than the bags I took with me when I went away to university. The scene is chaotic. The arena, like most others, is crowded, not designed for the crush of people. There are children and adults everywhere. And then it starts, something that always happens to me whenever I am at a rink (or in any public space, for that matter). I start scanning the room looking at every adult male trying to figure out why each one is there in the midst of the kids. That one in the corner—is he a parent? Have I seen him before? What is that guy doing over there? Are those kids by the door being watched by their parents? That coach kidding around with the kids on his team—is that normal, or is he getting a little too personal with some of them?

      Ten steps later and it has passed. I’ve made it into the dressing room of the team that I coach and all is well. Just the hockey team enters, the boys and the other coaches. Here we can all have fun and the kids can revel in the pure joy of playing hockey. That world out there, the big scary one we all encounter daily, that world doesn’t exist in the energetic lead-up to going out on the ice and playing. On the ice, the kids do things with such speed and grace that you sometimes have to remind yourself just how young they are. Here, one thing and only one thing matters to them: