Your life will become more fulfilling when you eliminate any sense of obligation to things that don’t really serve you. Do the things you want to for your highest good – it’s your life!
Be Proactive
Being proactive means taking the initiative and not waiting for things to happen to you. People who are successful in life tend to be proactive – they are aware every day that the life they live is their own choice. It’s not so much what happens to you in life that’s important – it’s what you do with what happens. Equally, it’s not so much how you fall down that matters, but how you get up again!
As you embark on transforming your life, you’ll encounter many choices and will start to become a real expert in making decisions. The more choices you make, the easier things will become and the freer you’ll feel. Before you’ve finished reading this book, I want decision-making to be like falling off a log! But first, consider:
Adopt a Positive Attitude
Every second of every day we can choose how we view the world. Our own reality is held in place by our perceptions and our current state of awareness. So it goes without saying that the more positive your attitude, the more easily you’ll be able to cope with transformation.
Is your cup half full or half empty? The moment you start to acknowledge that life is essentially ‘good’, your perceptions of the world automatically shift you into a new way of being. You may not be quite ready for this shift now, but if you are willing to open yourself up to the possibility, you could find a gradual sense of positivity creeping up on you as you transform your life.
When you start to adopt a more positive outlook on life, you still accept reality, but choose to live in a more fulfilling way. You find positive things start to happen to you and that you attract more positive people into your life.
There are various ways you can adopt a more positive mind-set. Some suggestions are appreciating and expressing gratitude for the good things in your life, and making sure you choose your words carefully, using positive, empowering language to express yourself and not undermining yourself with a negative inner dialogue or self-belief. Terms such as ‘I can’t’ or ‘It’s impossible’ set you up for failure before you even begin!
Be Willing to Extend your Comfort Zones
It’s not uncommon to fear change and the unknown. We’re only human and it’s human to suffer from a lack of nerve sometimes. As you work through this process I would like you to accept your own humanness. Accept that it’s alright to feel nervous, allow yourself to be comfortable with your ‘discomfort’, but then go beyond that and have the confidence to take perhaps the tiniest step towards the changes you want to make.
Making changes can result in successful or less successful outcomes. If you really want to transform your life you have to feel comfortable in accepting that sometimes things may not work out as you would like them to. However, don’t forget, you’ll learn from every action you take. As you go through the coaching process you’ll stretch yourself, make a few mistakes along the way and learn from them. Once you accept that by living with uncertainty you will have the space to make the right choice, life becomes a lot easier. I want you to be willing to make mistakes and take steps into the unknown.
Trust your Intuition
Inner confidence and faith in yourself are valuable qualities and the more you can access them, the more readily you’ll be able to manage the changes in your life. You can develop more of these characteristics if you pay attention to yourself and become more aware of your inner wisdom. I want you to make your intuition your ally, trust yourself and go with your ‘gut’ feelings.
How does your intuition speak to you? Do you receive information in words, do you get insights coming into your head or feelings in your body? If you’re unfamiliar with accessing your intuition, ask yourself where you feel things in your body. If you have a decision to make, sit quietly and see where you feel something. The chances are you probably feel ‘excitement’ in one part of your body (maybe a fluttering sensation in your stomach, for example) and fear or foreboding in another area (your throat drying up perhaps?) You can use these feelings to interpret what your intuition is trying to tell you. Create the time and space to access your inner depths, be patient and allow yourself to discover your own answers when the time is right for you. Ask your intuition questions and pay attention to the answers. These might come to you as a quick flash of inspiration, an insight in a dream, a sense of ‘knowing’ in the pit of your stomach or perhaps a well-timed coincidence that endorses your own thoughts or makes sense to you in some way.
As your coach I want you to learn how to ‘get out of your own way’, to develop the ability to get out of your head and into your heart so you connect with your own inner wisdom on a regular basis. Getting out of your own way means putting your ego to one side and getting in touch with your own truth.
Often transformation begins with faith rather than fact. You need to have faith to trust your body’s instincts, your heart’s intuition and your mind’s ability to work things out. But as you learn to step aside from your ego and learn to be really yourself, you make more room for truth and happiness.
Have Confidence & Act as though You’re Already There
People with confidence tend to move their lives on fairly quickly. Confidence is a very sexy attribute. We’ll be working on it more in Step 4 and Step 9. For the time being I’d like you to become aware of how confident you feel. Even if you do not feel very confident now, acting as though you are already achieving what you want will propel you forwards in life. You’ll be surprised how your confidence catches up with you!
Robert Browning
One of the key principles of success is to know your outcome, what you want